Post # 1
A lady I work with baked me a cake and brough it in today for my birthday. Its in the back break room for anyone and everyone to have a piece. So, I’m sitting at my desk, and one of my coworkers (who is a “big wig” here, and I think just turned 50 but still looks and acts like he is young and wears a bunch of cologne) just stopped and told me that it was a good cake but if I keep it up, I won’t be skinny. WTH is that supposed to mean?! I laughed it off and was like, well, i’m not skinny now so i figured I would just add a little more, or something stupid like that. I didn’t know what to say and couldn’t think of anything that quick! But what did he mean by his comment?!
Post # 3
1. comment = not appropriate.
2. more importantly, happy birthday to you!
does he make comments like this regularly?
Post # 4
I’ve gotten dumb comments like that. I usually just agree and smile and keep it movin’. I think the person saying it usually means no harm. I have no idea why they think its a cool thing to say but whatever!
Ever since I got engaged the number of dumb comments like that have increased. One day I was eating a cookie and a friend/co-worker was like, “Oh no, don’t eat that- wedding hips”. I was just like, “uh, I’m ok with my hips AND with eating this cookie soooo, thanks”. I was annoyed lol. But with a big wig, just smiling is the safest thing to do.
Post # 5
He hardly ever talks to me! That is why I am kinda confused!!!! Sometimes he will make comments to me, but hardly ever. It kinda hurts though because I have been switching birth controls for the past 6 months or so, and have gained 10 pounds, so I’ve been very conscious of it. Now I just feel really fat and like I shouldn’t have eaten a piece… or 2 😮 (they weren’t really big though!!!!)
Post # 6
Co-workers don’t think before they speak since they think they’re “buddy buddy” with you as you’re colleagues, but I would just smile/laugh and just shrug it off.
Post # 7
It sounds to me just like someone who doesn’t have a filter in his head to think about things before he says them. It doesn’t sound like he is saying that you are fat now though. Just ignore him!
Post # 8
It sounds like awkward conversation. I’ve noticed in offices where I’ve worked that women talk about food being fattening and stuff like that just as a way of bonding over things many of them are concerned about but which aren’t inappropriate for work or personal (which is irksome for its own reason). I feel like him saying that is more in the “trying to make conversation, seem more on your page than it is” than any sort of comment on your cake or your body – especially since what he said was talking about the hypothetical “if” you eat tons of cake.
Happy birthday, though!
Post # 9
I have a VP who doesn’t have a filter. She’s notorious for letting the “fatty” comments fly to anyone and everyone. It’s completely inappropriate, but I always just try to reassure anyone who is the brunt of it (including myself) that I should consider the source and to take it with a grain of salt.
AND, Happy birthday :o)
Post # 10
Honestly to me it just sounds like he was trying to be funny. If you are sensitive about your weight, I guess I can see why you would take offense, but clearly he was complimenting you in a backwards-guy-kinda-way. Obviously if he had thought you were fat he would have filtered his word choice… but it sounds like he was just cracking a harmless joke.
I get jokes like that all the time because I am OBSESSED with dessert, but I weigh around 110lbs which clearly doesn’t make me fat. We see ourselves differently than others do, so try not to project your own insecurities on to others because often that is just not the case 🙂
Post # 11
The comment was definitely inappropriate, but I wonder if he was just awkwardly trying to make conversation with you. My boss said something similar to me the other day (he caught me eating a bag of Cheetos for lunch and told me that if I keep eating like that I won’t fit in my wedding dress). I was sort of offended but I tried to remember that my interactions with him are almost always awkward and I just think he doesn’t know what to say to me when he’s not scolding me 🙂
Besides, calories don’t count on your birthday! 🙂
Post # 12
I agree with MissAsB – he just sounds like a natural idiot with no mind to mouth filter.
Don’t worry about eating one or two (or even three LOL) pieces of cake on your birthday. Don’t let his comment get you down, I’ve seen pics of you and you’re not fat at all.
By The Way, people are bound to make comments like that right before your wedding. I would get comments like that before my wedding too. A co-worker would say “are you eating AGAIN?! Keep it up and you won’t be able to get into that dress!” He is a really nice person, and was totally joking, and I’m one of the thinnest people that work here so I know he meant no harm.
Post # 13
First of all, Happy Bday!
Second of all, he’s a guy. My male coworkers say WEIRD stuff all the time about my weight. WHile women may go “omg that’s inappropriate!” the guys think NOTHING of it. Think about what they say to each other!!!! He’s just joking with you, honestly. Shoot, the other day, mine told me to just “accept the 10 pounds” i’ve put on and get over it.
They really don’t mean anything by it….they’re just pretty clueless. Man, we had cake the other day and mine were giving me crap about it, too. They’re guys! don’t take it to heart.
Post # 14
Have you seen 500 Days of Summer?
You know that scene where Summer asks Tom if he needs anything from the supply closet? Her response to his inappropriate comment is perfect and I personally vouch for it in any and all situations like the one you experienced.
(I’m trying to find a clip…)
Post # 15
I haven’t seen it, what does she say?!?!
Post # 16
And I agree, what a Highly RUDE thing to say, I’m so sorry! I hope the rest of YOUR day is great!