(Closed) Coworkers invited who quit/get fired: still invite?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: You sent a coworker a STD and that person quits/gets fired. Do you still send an invite?
    Yes - you have to : (9 votes)
    25 %
    Yes, depending on the relationship with that person : (19 votes)
    53 %
    No, you're off the hook : (7 votes)
    19 %
    Other - explain below : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    256 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Motor museum

    Invite the lady, but not the man. Would be awkward having him there with your Fi family anyway

    Post # 4
    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @odelly:  Everyone you sent Save-The-Date Cards needs to receive an invite.  Maybe given the situation they will choose not to attend.


    THIS is why I didn’t send co-workers Save-The-Date Cards… just invites when that time came!

    Post # 5
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would ordinarily say every person who received a STD needs an invite.  HOWEVER, for the guy, if it could conveniently be “very difficult to track down his new contact information” it might not be the worst thing ever.  I guess if you sent the STD to his home address that’s a little difficult to get away with. 


    I’d probably still invite the woman though.  Let her be the one to decide if she still wants to attend.  Weddings are a fair expense of time and money for guests as well, so she very well may decide not to if she doesn’t see the relationship continuing.


    And yeah, I didn’t STD any coworkers either.  Much easier to gauge where things are going to be at invite time.  Too late for you, but a good Public Service Announcement for future bees!  Only STD the people you literally want to make a real effort to plan their social life around your wedding 🙂


    Post # 6
    2651 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I would invite the lady, but not the man. Your words are telling, ” I’d like to remain friends with her”, ” fi doesn’t like him”.


    Post # 8
    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Invite the woman. The man… depends on WHAT he did to get fired. Anyway, I wouldn’t show up to a wedding for an excoworker if I’d been fired from the job.

    Post # 10
    3267 posts
    Sugar bee

    Reaon #874840 that STD’s are a bad idea except for for your nearest and dearest.

    You have sent and STD, and must send an invitation.  Hopefully, they will decline.

    Post # 11
    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @odelly:  Was he ever rude with your fiance directly? Do you think his lack of social graces will interfere with your good time on your wedding day? If so, don’t invite him. If his worst crime is being a crappy worker and a mooch, though, I’d let it slide and invite him.

    Post # 12
    1619 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    You don’t have to invite anyone you don’t want to invite, regardless of whether you sent them an STD or not.  Sure, I suppose it’s technically rude to not invite them after you sent them the STD, but if you no longer want to invite them no one will send you to jail if you don’t.  Especially not if you don’t anticipate remaining in contact with either of them.

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