Coworkers started RUMORS about me saying I'm a PROSTITUTE!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 107
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494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You’re being sexually harassed.  If you complain to HR and you’re retaliated against, maybe contact the US Department of Labor to file a claim?  I don’t know if that’s even something you can do but I guess you should start researching who you can contact *above* HR just in case…of course I am just assuming you are in the US which may very well not be the case.  What line of work are you in?  

Post # 108
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745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Why are you not immediately escalating this? Sounds like management is harassing you as well, so you should take it further. And regarding the other post quoted above (pertaining to the man pulling down your shirt), why weren’t police called at that time? 

You need to do something serious about this. HR, upper management, the local dept. of labor if the company isn’t doing anything about it. Try to get documentation in some form, and at the very least, keep track of all incidents on a calendar. Do not wait. If you do, you will continue to be a target. Not trying to be rude, but if you allow this to go on and don’t take it through the chain of command, you are allowing it to happen to you. You have no control over the bad stuff people do, but you DO control how it’s handled and whether it’s allowed to go on.

Post # 109
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4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@GoldenBeauty2202012:  Do not be afraid to report when you are being treated horribly just because you are afraid of losing your job. That was the worst mistake I ever made.

 I question this companies ethics for even considering these people management worthy.

Post # 110
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10713 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I didn’t read through all of the posts… but is there anyway that someone from your old job could have known someone from your new job and is doing this on purpose to try and hurt you? I’ve known people like this sadly. I hope things get better, I’d have quit right away and filed a lawsuit.

Post # 111
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2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

if doesn’t turn out to be, and I can’t get any requests of transfer granted, I could be unemployed.

It would be illegal to fire you over reporting sexual harrassment.  Seriously, report it ASAP. A man exposed your breasts and your manager allowed it!  Coworkers are calling you a cunt and a prostitute!  This is unacceptable.

Post # 112
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Reporting stuff doesn’t necessarily make the problem go away, and neither does court action either. About 3 years ago I was going through a situation where this girl spread rumours all over my work that I had offered to have sex with her neighbour and he turned me down. The only part of her story that was actually true was the bit where I had said hi to her neighbour.

Post # 113
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Anyway, at first I thoughtout will all blow over, but it went on for about a year. Everyday I would get people coming up to me telling me I must be desperate and all that. I would just smile politely and not say anything. One day this girl comes over to me in the middle of the work canteen and says “Is it true you told


that


was shagging her husbands best mate behind his back?” I realised at that point that the girl who had spread the rumour about me realised it wasn’t going to get to me so she got together with her friend and the two of them concocted another rumour, this time she was telling everyone I had told her friend she was cheating on her own husband. 

 

This makes me really angry. I said to the girl who asked me the question “Your right, and you can tell that bastard that told you the rumour that I know where her husband works and that I’m going straight up there after I get out of here to tell him she’s fucking around behind his back”.

No more rumours were spread about me. I left about 6 months later having not spoken to the rumour starter for almost a year and a half. We used to be really good friends before that. On my leaving day I was given a card by my manager and everyone on my line was there to see me go. She came over to shake my hand and I walked right past her and started speaking to someone else. She made my life hell for a long time and I knew she wasn’t really sorry that day because she had known of mytransfer for over 6 months. This was plenty of time to say something. 

Anyway….. Since then I’ve learned not to take any shit from anyone. Problems will only follow you around if you let them. I didn’t need a court case to stop the rumours, I just needed to grow a backbone and fight back. 

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