Post # 1
My coworkers threw me a surprise shower a few weeks before the wedding. I had originally invited the two who organized and threw it, although only one was able to come. The wedding was semi-destination (we live in New England, got married in the Southwest), and it never occurred to me to invite my coworkers.
Did I do wrong? DH’s parents are throwing a brunch reception in our honor in a few weeks. I’d like to invite the coworkers who came, and I hope they’re not offeneded they didn’t get an invite to the wedding itself.
Will they be annoyed? I hope that they don’t think they need to bring another gift!
Post # 3
In our office, we throw showers for all brides, babies, pretty much any excuse to celebrate and eat cake. It’s always with the understanding that they won’t necessarily be invited to the wedding. I know usually you shouldn’t invite people to a shower if they aren’t invited to the wedding, but office and church showers don’t always follow the same etiquette rules.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry about it as it seems like they threw if for you because they wanted to not so they could get an invite:)
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry too much over this. You aren’t obligated to invite coworkers, and they threw the shower for you out of the goodness of their hearts – not because they were expecting invites. Well, I don’t know them obviously, but that’s what it sounds like to me based on the way you’ve described the situation in your post. I would definitely invite them to the brunch reception as it could be a nice reaching out moment. I don’t think any coworkers should necessarily expect an invite when another coworker is getting married, and I think the brunch reception would be an appropriate event to extend an invite to.
Post # 6
It’s very common for coworkers to throw showers for weddings and babies. There’s no expectation of an invite tied into it, they’re just being nice. You can invite them to the reception if you want, and that’s a lovely thought, but you don’t have to.
Post # 7
In my opinion, you’re never obliged to invite anyone who throws/attends a shower where you don’t control the guest list.
And yes, my office did this for me too, though it was just in the lunch room after work with a combined gift and card. Offices often do this (also for other major events like leaving or having a baby) with no expectation of an invite.