Post # 1
My co-workers have generously offered to throw me a shower but because we are having a very small wedding (under 60 guests) none of them will be invited. Is it ok to accept a shower from people who wont be invited to the wedding? I REALLY dont want to offend people who are being so nice!
Post # 3
i think there should be an office place clause for the bridal shower inviting rules, because we always have bridal showers for coworkers whose weddings we don’t expect to be invited to, and no one is ever offended. i think it is fine as long as everyone is aware they aren’t invited before participating.
Post # 4
Office showers are the one and only exception to the rule. It’s fine to have an office shower even if your co-workers aren’t invited to the wedding. Definitely accept their generous offer!
Post # 5
Mrs. Meowerson is right. I was given a shower by coworkers, most of whom were not invited to the wedding. I genuinely appreciated the gesture, and it was lovely.
Post # 6
I don’t think coworkers (as a whole) ever expect to be invited to the wedding but offer to throw showers because they want to be a part of your special day in some way. Take them up on the offer!
Post # 7
This is perfectly fine in my book. You aren’t inviting them to your shower and then not the wedding, they are throwing you a shower. I think it’s very sweet that you have such great co-workers.
Post # 8
It is quite common for work colleagues who are not invited to the wedding to host a shower.
We all need to remember that customs vary around the country (and from country to country) so there is no “one “rule.
Contrary to a previous message, in many places it is also common for family, in-laws, church members, book club buddies etc to have a shower when they are not invited to the wedding.
Most of these people do not expect to be invited to the wedding, but they do want to share the joy of your forthcoming marriage and “shower” you with best wishes and gifts.