- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Ok Bees I need your advice.
Our shower invitations went out last week (we are having a coed ‘wedding shower’ here where we live now and I am having a traditional ‘bridal shower’ in our home state, both in August). I have two jobs (a full-time contracting job and a part-time job at an upscale gym in my city). Our wedding is being held about 700 miles away in our home state. I am only inviting one coworker from my FT job to the wedding, but we are inviting about 8 people from my part-time job (because it is also FI’s part-time job).
I have just finished our formal invitations (which will go out in 1.5 weeks!!) and we have about 5 extra physical invitations. We anticipate lots of no’s for the actual wedding from Out of Town folks (we’re inviting about 190 but realistically we are expecting about 130 yes’s). In other words, we have a fair amount of wiggle room in the guest list. For the shower, we have already received about 8 no’s out of the 30-person guest list, and only about 5 yes’s including me, my Fiance, and my Maid/Matron of Honor, who is co-hosting with FI’s aunt. My friends are bummin’ me out. :p
Here’s my dilemma:
Our boss at the gym approached Fiance the other day and asked for our registry info, so he could post it in a common area so our coworkers could “buy us lost of stuff” (his words, bless his heart). I’m not sure I’m comfortable with this, because it seems kind of tacky!
SO I thought…we’ll post the shower invite! There is a note to RSVP to my Maid/Matron of Honor, so she could keep track of who was coming, and it likely wouldn’t add more than 10-15 people to the guest list, which it looks like we’re going to have plenty of room in, unfortunately. If people are wanting to buy us gifts, I’d like to at least invite them over to swim (it’s a pool party!), feed them and celebrate with them.
THEN I thought…that’s kind of tacky, to invite (formally or informally) people to a shower that were not invited (formally or informally) to the actual wedding. SO I thought maybe we could post our wedding invite next to the shower invite with a note for folks to RSVP to me, because realistically it would only add maybe 4 people to the guest list for the actual wedding, and it seems like we’re going to have plenty of wiggle room.
So Bees….what do I do?! I know none of these are ideal or the classiest way to go about things, but my boss/FI have put me in a bit of an awkward position (FI of course was like oh totally here’s info!) lol. Then he told me and I was like oh dear…lol.
PS MODS: Something is going on with posts. When I bold a header and then hit ‘enter’, it won’t un-bold, so I hit space, then it will let me unbold, but it deletes all the typed content after that point when I post it, and I can’t recover it. This is the second post I’ve had that happen in. Just an FYI!