- 4 years ago
For those of you who have read a few of my previous posts, you know that my SO and I have been going through a bit of a challenge at home.
Long story short: Ex-Wife is threatening to take full custody of children because we cannot move, at the drop of a hat, to the state that she lives in. SO and I, along with Ex-Wife and her New Husband, have spoken – at length – over the phone with a mediating lawyer to try and work things through as much as possible. They’ve come to little agreement.
On a side note, the New Husband and I have gotten along quite well, and have spent several evenings chatting online about the Boys and how they’re doing in school and Boy Scouts. He seems like a nice guy.
Night before last, however, we received a frantic and quite manic call from Ex-Wife demanding that we move to where she lives RIGHT NOW because someone had called Child Protective Services on her and that the Boys were in danger of being taken away from her. She threatened us and demanded to know if we had called CPS and said that she would “get to the bottom of this” and that “we’d be sorry.”
Honestly, we had no idea what she was talking about – but we are now in a predicament. We have spoken with our mutual lawyer and discovered that CPS had been called about a week ago due to someone at the Boy’s school (friends of the Boys or parents of those friends) becoming aware of the lack of treatment that the Boys were receiving. Apparently, the Boys not having sheets on their beds was the least of the things that SO and I were privy to.
Here are the bones of the situation: The Boys will be given into the custody of their father in the event that Ex-Wife does not prove that she is capable of taking care of them, after a hearing. The hearing will be in about a month, and both SO and I will be called to give our testimony on the situation at hand. I, personally, don’t want to give a testimony due to the fact that I have little good to say about what little I know of the situation. I don’t want to be put in a place where I am “to blame” for Ex-Wife to not have joint custody of her children. SO doesn’t want to give a testimony due to the fact that he feels he has been more than doing his part; and he is getting tired of having to “jump” every time the Ex-Wife gets upset and decides to throw a fit and threaten him with not being able to see his children.
We’re just in a bind. Neither of us has worked with CPS before, and the last thing we want to do is do something that will result in the children hating either parent. Does anyone have any suggestions or advice?
Note: In some of my previous posts the topic at hand became pretty heated. Per our lawyer, both the New Husband and I have a right to an opinion and a preference in this case alongside our respective others (my SO and Ex-Wife). I say this because any advice that I seek tends to be rebutted with “You have no place in a matter that is strictly between SO and Ex-Wife,” when in reality, both myself and the New Husband do.