Post # 1
Well we booked the church this morning, and already ran into our first snag:/ they have mass on saturdays, so we are limited to either 2pm ceremony or 6pm. I would rather go with 6 but the ceremony wont be over until 7ish then the coctail hour would be from 7:30-8:30 eat at 9:15 then the reception would go to 1:30. This i can handle, but we would only have an hour before the ceremony to decorate the church before hand! the church is 10 min from the venue and i know my aunts would decorate for us. Do you ladies think it would work?!?! I was really hoping for a 4:30 ceremony:/ all of our pictures outside will be in the dark.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Are you planning on doing photos beforehand? If so, you can have a shorter cocktail hour- ours was about 45 minutes. so you could do cocktail hour from 7-8, eat at 8:15.
Post # 4
You can make anything work, honestly! And you can get photos done before the ceremony, either a first look, or you can find a ton of options to do pictures together without seeing each other. And if you get a good enough photographer, your night pictures could be phenomenal. https://www.facebook.com/FengImages?fref=ts has amazing night time photography ideas… Just a thought! Good luck deciding!
You can always bump it up to the 2pm ceremony?
Post # 5
I went to a 6:30 wedding in December last year and it was lovely! I really wished the chruch would have let us have a later ceremony but we were forced to have early afternoon. Luckily people are used to the gap when it comes to weddings with a mass so even if you bump it up to 2pm everything willw ork out.
I think an hour would be enough time to decorate the church – i know our church did not allow a lot of outside decorations besides flowers (which we HAD to buy) and pew bows. They actually had a designated “wedding director” that we had no choice but to use and pay to set up everything for the wedding. I’d check with your church and see if they have someone like that?
As for pictures maybe you should think about a first look that way you can do pictures of the bridal party before hand and then maybe family pictures inside the church after the ceremony – if not a good photographer will be able to work around the lighting issues and i’m sure your pictures will turn out beautiful.
Post # 6
@rebwana: I wasnt planning on doing them before, but the hotel that we are having the reception at has plenty of places for great pictues. And yes, i think night pics could turn out awesome!!
@futuremrsbarkis: I dont want to do a first look, i am very traditional when it comes to that. but i would do my pics with just the bms before and same with Fi and his Groomsmen so that we would only need our pics together after the ceremony.
I dont want to do an early ceremony, i want a night reception and if we did that there would be a few hour gap between
Post # 7
Why is there a 45 minute gap between cocktail and dinner? What is happening during that period? Also at 7pm depending on where you live and the time of year isn’t dark it’s just starting to dim. This is a really great time of day to take photos outside because there won’t be harsh shadows.
Post # 8
@emilygrace07: Im in michigan it will be totally dark. good question about the gap i guess i was just thinking that there needed to be time for them to get seated and situated, and then announcements/ toasts, and such.
Post # 9
Eating at 9:15 is VERY late. If you choose to do that, be sure to let guests know ahead of time (maybe on the reception card) so they can prepare accordingly. And don’t forget, if they’re Catholic and going to take mass, they aren’t supposed to eat for an hour beforehand, right?
I will say, I’m not Catholic but at all Catholic weddings I’ve been to, there has been a gap just for this reason, because of Saturday mass times. It’s pretty standard and expected around here. I don’t love the gap, but I understand it.
I think 6:00 is pretty late if you’re going to try to fit all that stuff in. My ceremony is at 5:30, but it’s only a 20 minute ceremony and is at the same location as the reception. We’re doing a first look and photos beforehand, no specific cocktail hour, and I expect that the last table will be eating dinner by 7:15 p.m. at the latest.
A 6 PM ceremony doesn’t sound that late – but when you start doing the math on all the other stuff you’re adding, a church exit, going to the reception venue, etc, I do think dinner that late is tough on guests.
Post # 10
Are you limited to when you can start your cocktail hour at your reception venue?
I would have the ceremony at 2PM, start cocktail hour as late as 6. But I’m used to the Catholic gap as are pretty much all of our guests.
Post # 11
Also, how exactly are you decorating the church that it’s going to take an hour? Pew bows and a few flower arrangements shouldn’t take that long at all.
Post # 12
@kimm99: some of the guests are used to the gap, however there is a pretty good portion of the people that are not. We are having the reception at a hotel with a bar, so they would have something to do. But i would have to pay for the photographers for that extra time too:/ As far as church decor, i am not totally sure what we are doing for the pews, but it will be more than just bows, the flowers at the alter shouldnt be a problem.