posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Did you pay for half? If not, I advise against opening it. It’s his gift; let it be special.

Post # 4
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

BAHAHA im with your mom i would have opened it in a heartbeat.  I’m so bad my Fiance had to hide mine too in the closet, in MY box of misc bath crap that never use anymore.  He ended up proposing early because i was going through a cleaning out phase and he was scared he’d come home from work and i would have either had the ring on or threw the box away.

Butttt if i had found it… i woulda opened that thing so fast.  I had it narrowed down to 5 rings and he got to pick whichever he liked better (mind you he also told me he didnt have the money quite yet and it wouldn’t be until at least october). i would wanna see what that darn thing looked like.  Dont let him know you know… such a heartbreaker for your SO.  He’s probably planning some fabulous proposal.

Post # 5
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@deucesarewild1:  DON’t DO IT!!!!!!!!!

Comeing from someone who hunted for the ring, when you finally get it- nothing is like that feeling when you see it for the first time. Nothing. You can’t fake it either.

Put it back and know it’s now a matter of time

Post # 6
901 posts
Busy bee

I’m pretty sure my SO has hidden it at his parents’ house nearby because he knows the kind of CIA operations that go on in this house! Seriously, if I want to know soething, I will find out, locks and passwords, no match for me.

What he doesn’t know is that I’ve kept my word and not asked too many questions and not dug around. Not even a little.

Post # 9
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

This same thing happened to me, and I had picked out the ring online too, and I looked! I am glad I did too, because at first, I didn’t like it and I wouldn’t have wanted to give that impression.. I’m not big on surprises though, so it’s not a big deal for me, the most important thing is that he’s going to propose and we’re going to get married!  Also, now that I’ve had the chance to think about it, I love the ring and its perfect 🙂 do what you think is right for you.

Post # 10
337 posts
Helper bee

Even if you look at it, it’s not like you can say anything if it’s not what you pictured.  I’d wait!! Or at least try to wait 🙂

Post # 12
228 posts
Helper bee

@deucesarewild1:  that moment should be between you & your man not you and your mom! Tell her no & don’t open it!

Post # 13
228 posts
Helper bee

@deucesarewild1:  plus, what will you do if you don’t like it on? Tell your guy you ruined his surprise & further don’t like it? Or will you wait until he proposes, getting yourself all worked up fretting over it in the meantime? If you end up not liking it, you’ll have to deal with that with your guy anyway so just wait. 

Post # 14
669 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Don’t look! I know it’s so hard… I am dying waiting for a proposal myself.  But the flood of emotion you will experience the first time you see the ring in person can only happen once and you want to share that with your SO.  You can call your mom the minute you get engaged.  Don’t let your proposal moment be ruined! 

Post # 15
8487 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I wouldnt look, personally. I’d want the first time I saw it in person to be when he was giving it to me. =)

Post # 16
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Don’t look !!

Surprise proposals, and the rings that go with them are kind of like Christmas (ONLY a ZILLION TIMES BETTER !!)

If you peek you’ll be spoiling it for BOTH of you.  And that isn’t fair to him.  He’s obviously a GREAT GUY and deserves “his minute”… you will have many many of your own on the way to the alter.

It is good you know… one less thing to worry about “I wonder IF he’s buying / bought the ring”

BUT if you open it you’ll spoil a lot of the element of surprise.  And you can’t ever get that back !!

You owe it to yourself and him to have the BEST PROPOSAL EVER !!

Hope this helps,

PS… Tell Mom to bud out.  Sharing with her wasn’t wise… I’d be sooo afraid that she’d spill the beans on your little secret knowledge to your Fiance… and that too would spoil the surprise.  Think back when you were a kid and found out about a Christmas Present ahead of time… sure you were happy you got what you wished for (or a tad saddened that it wasn’t the exact same model)… definitely took away from the Excitement of Christmas Morning.  Tell Mom that she’s being A GRINCH and needs to find something else to do with her time than keep bugging you about this.  Temptation isn’t fair or good in this situation.


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