Post # 1
My fiance just realized that he forgot to include his aunt on the guest list. She’s a widow (his uncle died a while back), and when he was going through his list of uncles, he just never thought about her. Until today. The rest of our invitations went out a couple of weeks ago, and our RSVP deadline is August 11th.
What would you do? My inclination is to send her an invite RIGHT NOW. I wanted to include a note, but there’s really no good way to say, “We forgot to invite you because your husband died.” The alternative is to wait until the RSVP deadline, and then call her and pretend that her invitation was lost in the mail. Which no one ever believes, ever.
Post # 3
Two options in my mind:
1) Send her an invitation and don’t include a response card – she will probably call or just send you a hadnwritten RSVP
2) Send her an invitation ASAP and if she sees the reply by date then she will most likely send it back in time – Aug 11 is still 3 weeks away so I think you would be FINE!
Post # 4
Send her an invite, maybe extend your RSVP deadline?
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
ditto – send it asap and if she asks someone about it, just either act surprised, like it is the mail’s fault, or say you thought you had sent it but then found it under your couch so sent it as quickly as possible! I think you have enough time.
Post # 6
@hermitcrab: OMG, that’s genius!!! I can totally pretend that her invitation was buried beneath the enormous pile of invitation crap that’s eaten my dining room table. Hell, I can even envision something like that happening, and now, I’m going to go make sure it hasn’t 🙂
Post # 7
I did the same thing… I forgot my MIL’s sister! Only realized it when I saw my Mother-In-Law at the shower and she asked wether we’d heard back from the sister yet. (and this was 4 days before the RSVP deadline!) I sent the invite ASAP with a very apologectic note – her husband and her son (who I had remembered to invite) had the same name (except one being the 3rd, and one the 4th), so I apologized and said I must have gotten confused. (They RSVP’d no, which we expected – they live far away – but included a little note that said, “No worries”.)
Post # 8
Another nice lie that is grounded in truth – if your return address is on the back sometimes it can get misread and sent back to you?
Post # 9
i think you have enough time – we have 4 more invites we are sending out (b-list) with an RSVP date of August 10th. its still far enough away that its not ‘last minute”