(Closed) Crap … the almost-forgotten guest

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How to handle the guest we forgot...
    Send her invitation ASAP without including an explanation : (20 votes)
    77 %
    Send her invitation ASAP with a note of explanation (wording suggestions GREATLY appreciated) : (4 votes)
    15 %
    Wait for the RSVP deadline and pretend her invitation was eaten by the postal service : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Some other awesome option, which I'll describe in the comment section : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    2532 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Two options in my mind:

    1) Send her an invitation and don’t include a response card – she will probably call or just send you a hadnwritten RSVP

    2) Send her an invitation ASAP and if she sees the reply by date then she will most likely send it back in time  – Aug 11 is still 3 weeks away so I think you would be FINE!

    Post # 4
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    Send her an invite, maybe extend your RSVP deadline?

    Post # 5
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

    ditto – send it asap and if she asks someone about it, just either act surprised, like it is the mail’s fault, or say you thought you had sent it but then found it under your couch so sent it as quickly as possible!  I think you have enough time.

    Post # 7
    354 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I did the same thing… I forgot my MIL’s sister!  Only realized it when I saw my Mother-In-Law at the shower and she asked wether we’d heard back from the sister yet.  (and this was 4 days before the RSVP deadline!)  I sent the invite ASAP with a very apologectic note – her husband and her son (who I had remembered to invite) had the same name (except one being the 3rd, and one the 4th), so I apologized and said I must have gotten confused.  (They RSVP’d no, which we expected – they live far away –  but included a little note that said, “No worries”.)

    Post # 8
    529 posts
    Busy bee

    Another nice lie that is grounded in truth – if your return address is on the back sometimes it can get misread and sent back to you?


    Good luck!

    Post # 9
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    i think you have enough time – we have 4 more invites we are sending out (b-list) with an RSVP date of August 10th. its still far enough away that its not ‘last minute”

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