(Closed) Crap your guy says

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why is he asking you about your food intake????   In those words?  And his comment was mean!  

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh boy. My Fiance says things like that all the time. Half joking/half truth. I do eat a lot though;) guys aren’t the most tactful are they?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would have slapped him! that was incredibly wrong!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Dude. Shut that down. You have every right to not like being told something like that and he needs to know. Maybe in a weird twisted way he thought he was being helpful and letting you know what he was observing but it obviously came out REALLY wrong. If you don’t like it then he deserves to know and you deserve to not hear it again.

Then again, I almost laughed at what you wrote till I realized he wasn’t joking. My guy is always  saying terrible things while trying to keep a straight face just to get me riled. I usually think it’s pretty hilarious and I don’t mind cause I can dish it out as well. But on days I’m not in the mood or I don’t like his particular joke I tell him immediately that I don’t like it and now he’s required to say something nice to me. 🙂 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@misscat1121:  I would have had to pick my jaw up off the ground!

I think the worst that Darling Husband has said to me was something like “you shouldn’t be that out of breath after climbing up the stairs”….I took it that he was meaning that I was out of shape, but I think it was just something carelessly said with no ill intent. (For the record, I was out of breath because I lived in a walk-up flat with NO lift…and carrying bags of shopping up those stairs!)

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

Ouch!

(((Hugs))) to you, OP. If he noticed you were upset and later apologized, he probably knows not to say something like that again.

I had a similar moment when I first started dating Darling Husband. I had casually mentioned to him that I was on a diet, and on one of our first dates he took me to a restaurant. Just as the food was set down on the table and we were ready to dive in, he said, “So how much weight do you want to lose?”

(insert my horrified expression here)

I assumed he meant: “You’re a fat pig, and you need to lose weight.” I was thinking, “This is going to be our last date. I’m never going out with this schmuck again.”

I later found out that what he really meant was that he liked the fact that I’m on the curvy side, and he didn’t want me to diet those curves away and turn into a bean pole.

: )

In your case… Do you have any ideas as to why he said it? For instance, have you gained a noticeable amount of weight recently? Were you wearing something really tight that gave you a muffin top?

I’m not for minute saying that that would give him an excuse to make a comment like that — there is no excuse for the way he said that — but what do you think prompted him to say that?

If it makes you feel any better, I’ve gained 15 lbs. since getting engaged last Thanksgiving and I am popping out of my clothes right now. I also would be devastated if my Darling Husband said that to me. So sorry that happened to you.

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was complaining once about how my tiny waist made it hard to find pants that fit, and my Darling Husband replied with, “yeah, and since it’s so small, it makes your butt and hips look huge.”

Yell

He was trying to commiserate with me, but DANG.  

I think sometimes they just don’t think before speaking.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Men are really stupid sometimes! I remember when my fi made some comment about how i should work out more, i was so pissed! He hasnt made another comment since then

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@misscat1121:  

 

Ten pounds is not the end of the world. If you bring this up with him again, I would want to know more about why he said that. Was he saying it as a matter of fact observation? Was he saying it to be critical? If you knew more about what was going through his head when he said it, it might help to get to the bottom of it.

Still, as a woman, I know what a sensitive subject this is. I hope he finds a way to make it up to you!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

@starrynight:  

ROFL! Men are hilarious sometimes. A woman would never say something like that if she were trying to be supportive! Haha!

 

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