(Closed) Crash Our Wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t understand what a “crash my wedding” guest is?

Is it someone you’re only inviting to the after party? As in, not inviting them to the dinner, but inviting them afterwards for the party only? Sorry, I’ve just never heard of this before.


Post # 4
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Honestly, I don’t think you should expect most people to leave after dinner.  I’ve always thought it was rude to eat and run at a wedding.

Post # 5
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it’s a great idea. A lot of younger people don’t care to watch the ceremony, nor sit down for dinner with a bunch of strangers and listen to the speeches.


Everyone likes to dance and party though. Etiquette be damned. Rock out with your friends!

ETA- You asked how to word it.

Our invitations were modelled after ‘backstage passes’ to a concert. I had a select group of invites that were for the party only. I labelled these ones ‘After Party Passes. I’m far from being traditional though.

I would just say something like, “We invite you to celebrate with us for a live band and dancing following the reception.” Then list the time and location.







Post # 6
4523 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@SomethingClever:  I know what the opinion is of tiered receptions and this technically is one.

However, we would come to this in a heartbeat: I don’t have to sit through a ceremony and I don’t care one way or another about dinner…but if you’re inviting us to music AND drinks, we’ll come 😉

Post # 7
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

This is very common in the UK. The invites normally say “invite you to celebrate their marriage” with a tim of 8pm ish.

just make sure dinner will definitely be finished – almost always the evening guests end up waiting in the bar for the speeches to be over!

Post # 8
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

PS I love the idea of a “Crash the wedding” invite 🙂

Post # 9
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

We have a similar situation, and are inviting our cousins to the reception (not ceremony & dinner).  I agree with badabing88, that they will most likely be psyched that they don’t have to sit thru the ceremony, and can just drink & dance.

We created a separate invite that said “Join the Party” (in large letters) to celebrate the marriage of “X” & “Z”.  I then put date & time, and “Dancing, Cocktails, and Hors d’oeuvres”.  I also included the phrase “Your presence is our present.” So, they were clear that they are not expected to bring a gift.

There are some cute invites on Vistaprint that are easily adaptable for this type of occasion.  Good luck!

Post # 10
360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Definitely don’t expect people to eat and run. I also wouldn’t use “crash my wedding” on anything, but it’s totally legit to invite people to the reception only if you want, you would just have reception invites. 

If you want the “after party” to be less formal, consider less formal invites asking people to join you for dancing and cocktails. 

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