(Closed) Crate and Barrel Parties: I has a sad

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

That’s funny, my fiance was really enthusiastic about scanning stuff. We only registered for part of our registry in store. Maybe ask him to come with so you can at least see the plates and flatware in person and get an idea of what you want. It was really helpful to hold the forks in our hands, etc. And hint that using the scanner is fun! 🙂

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant

Haha I would tell him to suck it up and go!  My Fi hasn’t been thrilled at the thought of registering either, but he’s usually a good sport about this stuff and I know he’ll go eventually.

If he’s seriously not into it, tell him that you’ll take your Maid/Matron of Honor and let her pick things out with you–then maybe he’ll want in on the action and he’ll want a say in what gets tagged!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

my Fiance wasn’t thrilled about going, but he said he had a surprisingly good time – we enjoyed seeing stuff/feeling stuff in person as well since that was helpful in our decision making of what to register for.  We compromised though and did some of it online.  One of our registries is amazon.com.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Don’t make him go if he doesn’t want to, but definately go with a friend or bridesmaid, or mom. I’m going with my bridesmaid and I think it will be a blast!

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I went with my Fiance and have to say that it was awesome. He had a great time with the scanner and the free drinks and appetizers that they have were not too shabby either! It’s not the worst way to spend one evening and it’s nice to pick out all the stuff that you want to see in person. Good luck with getting him to go with ya – it makes it more fun registering! 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant

Oh, that’s hard!  I’m sure it can get lonely sometimes.  Can you just have a serious discussion with him on it though?  Tell him that it really is important to you and it’ll be a fun activity for both of you to do together?  Maybe entice him by telling him he can register for a “man” gift like a TV or new ipod (or apple tablet when it comes out today!) if he does this with you?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

He probably just pictures a bunch of girls running around with scanner guns looking at flatware or plates that all look the same to him.  Does he know about the free food and drinks?  All I need to say to Fiance are those words and he’s on board!

But honestly, if you tell him it’s important for you that he comes and that while you can register for things online it takes away from the ‘bridal experience’ maybe he’ll change his tune.  And you can throw in that you want him there because you REALLY value his opinion (I think guys like hearing that part) on house stuff.  

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

my Fiance didn’t want to go either, but he sucked it up and went anyway. It is important to do some registering in stores bc the older folks will more than likely not shop on line so you want to be sure that the items are availible in store!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Mine didn’t want to go either.  So we didn’t.  We did everything online and online even tells you if it’s a “store only” or “online only” item.  So no worries there.

 

Also, the stores those mornings are madhouses.  Like 2 Valium madhouses.  Kinda glad we didn’t go.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

We went to one of those events (although I’m disgusted with their new return policy).  The best part was that Fiance really wanted heavy weight flatware.  By going (even though he really didn’t want to), he was able to select the flatware that felt the best in his hand.

On a side note, he picked our formal china and we’ve received some of that.  He refers to it as “my china” and the causual that I picked as “your china.”  In the end, he had a better time than he let on.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

I def. don’t think they treat you like a VIP… you’re just more like a sheep being herded around with other couples, so you’re definitely not missing out on a lot by not going to one of the “events”. But I do think it’s important to at least go in to the stores and touch a lot of the things you plan on registering for—colors and materials aren’t accurately represented online, and it’s a pain to return a large number of items that show up at your doorstep that you thought would be different! We returned a large number of items to C and B that I registered for sight unseen. We live in an area where you can’t really park near the crate and barrel, so we had to schlep like 1/4 mile back and forth from our car to the store over and over to return this stuff… it was exhausting and embarassing! If you can’t get him into the store, then I do recommend going on your own and checking out the stuff you like to see if you really like it. The events are whatever… don’t feel too bad if you don’t make it into one 🙂

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I agree with not going to the event.  If you want to get the best service and actually be treated like a VIP, go in the middle of the day during the week – a Monday or Tuesday is best – when they aren’t busy at all!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

Does he like to drink?  Tell him they serve mimosas! And let him use the registry gun 🙂  It is much easier seeing things in person though there are several more items online.  I had to see alot in person to decide what we actually wanted.  There were beautiful glasses we wanted and when we saw them in person they were hideous!

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