(Closed) Please delete

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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8430 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

OK sorry but she has just admitted to having a mental illness and you are refering to her as the crazy-aunt-show? Sorry but that is cruel and demeaning.

She is extending the olive branch because she has realised that when she wasn’t medicated (you know when her disease was at its worst) she did some bad things.

Sorry but you are joking right?

Post # 5
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9647 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@j_jaye:  +1 about the ‘crazy aunt’ comment. i also have depression and would be mortified if anyone called me crazy. i was upset when my FI’s aunts called one of their nieces crazy once, she was exhibiting classic symptoms of depression. having a mental illness does not mean you are crazy! she needs your support.

HOWEVER, I also see your point of view, it would be good if you were able to really enjoy this time and that she should be fully supportive of you!

Post # 7
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9647 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@Cariad:  i see you edited your post, thank you

Post # 8
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3626 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d wait a week or so before replying just so you can think of what you want to say. Maybe it will make you feel better to say straight up “I need you to acknowledge how nasty you were.” She needs to take responsibility for herself, mental illness or not.

Post # 9
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1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Tell her thank you for the apology. Let her know it’s going to take some time to forgive her but you’re willing to work towards it (if you are willing to do that)

My mother is bipolar and pretty much all my life she would do very bad things to hurt and make me miserable. Even to the point that she lied to my entire family and had them believing evrything was my fault.  But when she had her moments of clarity she would genuinely be sorry. If she really does have a mental illness you have to seperate what she did to who she really is. Am I excusing her behavior? No. But at least she was able to admit she was wrong. Life is too short to be bitter. And it takes more energy to be angry than to let go. Since you know she has a mental illness you can choose how you want to interact with her. But honestly…. my dad is making my upcoming wedding hell and lying to family members about what’s going on. I WISH he was humble enough to admit he is wrong and apologize.

Good luck and I hope you make a decision that is right for you.

It takes a big person to apologize. It takes an even bigger person to have the capacity to forgive.

 

Post # 10
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Altho I didn’t see the original post, I just want to say I think it’s wonderful that you were able to vent, think about the situation, and realize that you were wrong. Sometimes all we need is to just rant and I love that the hive allows a place for that.

Post # 11
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I read your original post and I also read your original thread. All I want to say is seeing as you guys want to make amends, why not in a few years time do some sort of wedding blessing. You feel that your wedding was ruined, you could always have a blessing and a family party and invite those who didn’t come to your wedding because of all the drama a few months ago. 

Post # 13
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I never read the first post, but the reply seems good.

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