(Closed) crazy bridesmaid part 2 – very long but need support please :(

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

just giving hugs sorry to hear your cousins health is deteriating.  i dont know what to do bout the bm , if she is suicidal u can call the local pd-nonemergnecy for a wellfare cheeck, they can do a sucide watch on her..

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

She sounds like a narcissist.  I have had my share of narcissistic friends (I think I must attract them because I have a crazy mother and I’m used to handling people!), and they  can be sweet as syrup when you call them out on their bullshit.  She will get back to her regular old demanding self as soon as she starts feeling in control of the relationship again.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

🙁 thats sad that her parents dont do anything for her..

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Regardless, you don’t owe her to be her savior.  And to be honest, if she was suicidal and meant it, I feel like this wouldn’t happen all the time and she would have done something by now.  It seems like she’s just an attention seeker.  If there really was a problem, I doubt her parents would be ignoring it.

No matter how this plays out, it’s not your responsibility to take care of her.  YOu need to do what’s best for you.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@aussiebride26:  honestly, it’s your wedding, if you dont’ want her there, you certainly shouldn’t have her standing up for you,  At my first wedding, I went through this.  I had a bridesmaid that was so selfish she would never ask about the wedding or how I was, but constantly called for advice on a bf she shouldn’t have been with.  I gave advice again and again andshe would never take it, but call me upset that he was again a douche bag.  

When I would bring up anything related to me or the wedding she’d listen for a minute and get back to her. I finally told her, that I was done with the situation,  She could come to the wedding as a guest if she would like but that I needed people who cared about MEon my wedding day to stand up with me.

 

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2013

*hugs* i really feel for you hun, ive had friends turn into complete monsters and it is hard to move onwards afterwards, but you need to do what is right for you, especially at the moment with your cousin being ill.

if you’re not sure that ending things is the right thing, maybe just teake a break from her for a while and see how you feel after no contact??

 

sorry i cant be more help hun. i do hope it works out in the end

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Drop her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, uninvite her to the wedding, change your number and ignore this psycho forever. I know her type. They never change and it is always about them. If they realize the world doesn’t stop for them, they threaten suicide. This is going to sound way harsh but next time she threatens her life, tell her that you can’t make her decisions for her and she can do whatever she wants. She won’t kill herself. Ppl like that love themselves way too much to ever harm themselves. Her problem is that she cannot be the center of attention. This is absolutely her parents fault and you shouldn’t have to suffer because of it. I have had “friends” like this before. You deserve better. I hope all goes well.

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