(Closed) Crazy ex-best friend … Why are you still talking to me?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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2317 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m a little confused, you said ‘dated’, which makes her an ex, and it wouldn’t be that far fetch to cut out all personal relations/ contact including facebook in any case. You dont really need an excuse, just unfriend her and move on focus on your current relationship.

If I got this all wrong and she was  just a genuine friend who turned toxic, you may need to handle this a bit more delicately. Send her an email, explain that though you appreciate your time as friends, you really dont think the current status of your friendship is healthy for you both, and you think you should cut out all contact and focus on other important issues.

She’s sick and I feel her pain, sympothize with her, make it clear that you did not wish this on her and in no way thinks she deserves it. Most importantly make it abundantly clear that though you resolved to caring from a distance, you think its best to not be involve in each other’s live.

Hopefully she’ll get the point that your are not spiting her you just want to move on with your live and have her do the same.

Good Luck and keep us posted.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

It doesn’t seem like a win-win situation at all. What your friend is going through is really difficult b/c her health is completely at stake. Many times people that deal with cancer or other serious illnesses tend to suffer from depression. Maintaining a relatinoship with people who are depressed can be challenging and difficult. I myself have a friend that’s going through this and there are many moments where I just want to cut off ties but feel compelled not to b/c what she’s going through. It’s a big internal struggle and you’re not alone in your feelings

Your friend seems really manipulative. If you do cut ties you should definitely do it carefully. Although you may lose friends through the ordeal, you can at least have your sanity and happiness back. This is not a healthy relationship at all and the friends you do lose… maybe they weren’t real friends to begin with.

Just tell her what Picturemeurs mentioned about. She outlined it pretty well. After givng her the message, don’t respond back to her at all. Cut contact and leave it at that.  A nice clean break would be the best. This girl will get over it… trust.

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