Post # 1
Bees, let me explain:
I broke up with my Ex last year and started dating someone shortly afterwards. The entire time I have been dating my current SO, my Ex has been working hard to get me back. I wasn’t/am not interested. I found out last week that my Ex has found someone else and called my family and has asked to bring his new girlfriend over to meet them and hang out with them. I’m sorry, but am I the only one who thinks this is stupid & weird?! Because I’m definitely not making an effort to take my new boyfriend to meet his family (that would be super weird)
My brother thinks it’s fine & that maybe it’s because he just wants us all to see that he is happy…okay fine, but he can call us on the phone and tell us that he’s happy…HE DOESN’T NEED TO SHOW US!
My Mom has also said that she has no interest in meeting my Ex’s new girl and that she’d actually prefer he not bring her over. My Ex also told my mom that him and his new girlfriend are going to do a lot of the things that he did with my family while him and I were dating…
I personally think he’s trying to show off and say “oh look what I have now” or he’s trying to make me jealous- which I’m obviously not. Am I being crazy or mean or overthinking this?
Post # 3
That is very weird, unless he is very close friends with your family, I would say HELL NO!
Post # 4
thats weird for sure. i think you’re right.
Post # 5
That is really bizarre. I’ve never heard of anyone doing this… You definitely aren’t the crazy one.
Post # 7
@ArmyBeee: Woah. Yes, that is crazy and weird. (Your ex, not you). I’d try as hard as possible not to think about it too much. You can’t reason with crazy.
So long as your family doesn’t entertain his craziness (and it sounds like they aren’t), there shouldn’t be any problems.
Post # 8
@Jacqui90: well is his very close with my family because we dated for 7 years before the break-up, but still- it’s weird. And besides, if I were her, I would be offended if he wanted to take me to meet his Ex’s family. I would feel like he wasn’t over me and that he’s still trying to hang on to something that’s not there, you know?
Post # 9
@adoc86: okay, thank you. I thought maybe I was being mean or thinking about this too much. I would be offended if I were the new girl.
Post # 10
@ArmyBeee: Yeah it is definitely still weird, even if he is close with your family. I would be pissed off if Fiance wanted me to meet his ex’s family!!!!
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Wow, this guy is crazy city! All he’s doing is proving that he is super not over you :/ I feel bad for the new girl. at least your mum gets it XD
Post # 12
@MaidMarian: yeah, I definitely feel like he’s just making excuses now to come over and still be around me/my family. I also think I would feel differently about it if he was married to his new girlfriend and I was married to my new boyfriend and we hadn’t seen each other in years and they were just stopping by to say hey. But this is just weird because we’ve only been broken up for a year and he’s actually making an effort to bring her over- almost as if on purpose.
Post # 13
Weird weird WEIRD. And NOT OK!!! Unless your ex was friends with your brother or another member of your family before he started dating you, this is definitely strange, and yes, does seem like he’s trying to show you what a good thing he has now, by word of mouth.
If your family respects you, they will tell your ex, thanks but no thanks. Glad to hear you are happy, but we do not need to see you and meet your new lady.
I’d love to know what this new Girlfriend thinks about this. What guy brings his new girl to meet his EX girls family? Red flag!
Post # 14
Hey, at least you know you dodged a bullet with THAT one. It’s not normal behavior, and I understand that he was close to your family for years and it’s hard to cut those ties, but it has to be done. Your mom has the right idea, just tell him “that’s nice that you’re seeing someone, I’m sure she’s a lovely woman” and find an exucse to get off the phone/run errands/whatever. He wants a reaction, and when he doesn’t get one, he’ll stop.
Post # 15
That is really effing weird. Breakups mean you break up with that person’s friends and family, too. I feel bad for this new girl, seeing as he’s trying to drag her to see his EX’S FAMILY and obviously just say, “Haha, yeah, I’m great, you guys! Look at my new girlfriend! I know your daughter broke up with me, but I’m dating someone now!” How sad.
Post # 16
Weird and inappropriate. I keep in very casual contact with my brother’s ex-GF (we actually went to high school together and were friends outside of bro’s relationship with her) but it’s all done very quietly and I DO NOT bring her around my family or discuss her with my brother or SIL.