(Closed) Crazy family drama: what would you do?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

I am not sure what I think.  I am tempted, to believe that her mother’s intentions are good do to the probability at being brainwashed against her mother shades the way she sees her.  I think you should encourage her to take positive steps toward independence and progress, but be careful not to fall into co-dependancy with her.  She does need to understand that although people love her, it is not unfair of them to have standards against associating with unhealthy people.  I think her appearing healthy and content would be proof enough.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think if her mother wants proof of improvement she should get them both into counseling together and separate. I think her mom is expecting a bitttt too much from her expecting her to be fully functioning and well adjusted after what she’s been through. A therapist would help her mother see that she can’t just change overnight, and that it will take a lot for her to trust her mother again after how she was raised. Her mom is making it all about her, which makes me wonder if this relationship will ever be a healthy one. But I can’t imagine how it would feel to have no family at all so I understand her desire to be close with her mother.

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