(Closed) Crazy Grandma Is Not Coming To The Heathen Wedding!

posted 5 years ago in Secular
Post # 2
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Helper bee

My fiances gram is the same way. I sat next to her at my FSIL’s wedding and the whole time she complained that it wasn’t in a church, she didn’t like the seating arrangements, when we threw birdseed at their sendoff it got in her hair, blah blah blah. I would be relieved if she decided to not even come to ours, because ours is going to be even worse in her eyes. 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

mrshuntington:  I can’t figure out why you are surprised that she is not coming.

She is a devout Catholic. The Catholic Church considers marriage a sacrament, a vehicle for God’s graces to the couple and to the community.

You do not believe in God.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

mrshuntington:  Good. She can keep the crazy to herself. At home. Alone. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Pot meet kettle.  You’re allowed to have your beliefs, or lack thereof and have the ceremony of your choice.  Not everyone has to agree with your choice.  She is allowed to respect her beliefs by not attending.  You feel she’s not respectful of your choices, but then write a post that considers her choices ‘crazypants’ … so not very respectful of her choices either.  

 

ETA:  While you haven’t said it, how many times do we see brides say, I someone can’t come and be happy for us, then I wish they’d just not come.   This may work out just that way.

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Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

fascinated:  +1000000 (and I’m an atheist too)

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

mrshuntington:  While I can understand you being sad that his grandmother won’t be attending, she is just as entitled to her beliefs as you are to yours. It’s a touch backwards to expect her to be accepting of your lifestyle, when you have deemed hers “crazypants”.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

mrshuntington:  I must have missed the part where u mentioned u were upset about her not coming…

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

 

mrshuntington:  I didn’t say I was unhappy with the content.  I did say that you have every right to your beliefs and the ceremony that reflects them.  I just pointed out the double standard.  Some others seem to agree.  

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

… whoa.  That’s quite the reaction to people discussing their opinion on the story you presented to them on a message board.

I’m Athiest, too… but I totally get how someone who deeply believes that if you don’t worship their God you will burn in eternal hellfire would be a little upset to find out her beloved grandson doesn’t believe in her God.  Especially someone old.  Old people have a hard time letting things go…

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

mrshuntington:  I think a lot of this is based on the generation.

Today’s new grandmas are way less likely to be like this. I’m agnostic, and I think it’s something to be proud of when someone holds very strong to their beliefs- you don’t see much of that these days. Now, I’m not saying that I agree with her not going… but I don’t think she qualifies as “crazy” for her beliefs. Keep in mind, she was also fired up and will likely calm down. Just respect what she has to say, calmly tell her “I understand how you feel but we do not agree” and let it play out. 🙂

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