Post # 1
OK bees some of you may recall a post I had from a few months ago:
Help me pick between these 2 dresses!
So, I do have two dresses. Since I chose the ball gown first I also purchased all the accessories (shoes, bolero, jewelry) for that gown before totally changing my mind like a lunatic and buying a lace gown. I did ultimately decide the lace gown was “THEE” dress and intended to wear that one on my wedding day.
FI and I are having a later ceremony at 5:30pm, because of this our photographer wanted us to do a first-look and some of the photos prior to the ceremony since we will only be working with 30-40 minutes of sunlight after our ceremony ends. My FI was extremely against the first-look and seeing me prior to the wedding as he really wanted to not see me in my dress until I was coming down the aisle but the photographer says there is really no way to do this and get all the photos we want outside at the country club where we are getting married.
In comes the ball gown …. would I be totally bat-sh!t crazy if I wore my ball gown to my first look and first round of photos and then changed right before our ceremony into my lace gown surprising FI when I walk down the aisle and ultimately not letting him see me in my dress before our ceremony?? I know this would mean a majority of my photos would be in the other gown (mostly the ones with our bridal party) and I wonder if I would regret that later?
What do you think? I may just officially be nuts at this point with 7 days to go.
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
I’m not against changing dresses (especially since you already spent the money on both), but I’m not sure the timing is going to work out if your photographer is already that concerned with the timeline.
Post # 3
rachel85: I am thinking I would put the other dress on literally in the 30 minutes before my ceremony while the bridesmaids & I are back in hiding while our guests arrive. I would already have my hair/makeup done at this point I would just be putting on the other dress, shoes and jewelry right before I go down the aisle.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Still sounds really tight to me. Most of the weddings I’ve been in, they planned to have a lot more time than they actually did. What about wearing one dress for the ceremony then changing for the reception? (This is actually pretty common.)
Post # 5
If it were me, I think I would regret having most of my photos in my 2nd choice dress. Also, what are you/were you planning to do with the ball gown? If you wanted to sell it, then I wouldn’t wear it.
Having said that, it would be a great surprise factor!
Does your FI know you have 2 dresses?
Post # 6
rachel85: I did debate that several months ago but I ultimately want to shock FI when I walk down the aisle and do the dress change to give him his “not seeing the dress before the ceremony” request.
AllieBee12: I have no idea what to do with the ball gown. I had it custom made to my measurements by an Etsy shop and it was not very expensive so I didn’t mind keeping it. FI has NO CLUE I have two dresses! He didn’t want to know anything about how I would look prior to the wedding so as far as he knows I only have one dress.
Post # 7
Sure, the timing will be extremely tight, but I say do it! That is, only if it is something you really think you want to do. You’d still have all the ceremony and reception pictures in your favorite dress plus this way your fiancee will still get a bit of a surprise. I think it’s really neat and I’d say go for it.
Post # 8
That is crazy…and I love it. Seriously, I’m imagining the reaction when he THINKS he knows what he’s going to see, then you start walking down the aise and *BAM* jaw drops. I’d be giggling the whole way down the aisle!
Post # 9
I don’t see why not! The timing might be tight but how long could it really take to switch dresses? You’ll be “hiding” anyway while your guests arrive.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Savannah, GA
I say do it! I absolutely love the idea and wish I had thought about it before I sold my dress!
Post # 11
I would vote that one doens’t need any extra unnecessary stress on one’s wedding day and that your bridal look should be a single look.
Post # 12
AllieBee12: agreed about the 2nd choice dress for most of your photos.
Post # 14
I think that if you do a first look in the other dress it will totally shock him. Make sure your photographer is prepared to take a photo of his face when he first sees you. If you love both dresses I think it would be a wonderful way to have both. Go for it!
Post # 15
That sounds fun! I know first looks are all the rage these days, but I wouldn’t have given up seeing the look on my husband’s face as he saw the dress and me walk down the aisle for the first time for anything. My photographer captured some AMAZING pictures of his expression that I doubt we would have gotten in a first look (we are both a bit awkward, so when placed in an awkward situation like a first look awkwardness results). I would just make sure your photographer gets some great pictures of you and your husband alone with the second dress. All the family and bridal party shots are really nice to have, but the photos of just you two are the ones people will display in their homes for generations.