- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I don’t know what to do anymore
My fiancée’s mother has just gone too far.
Here is the back-story my fiancée is from NY most of his family still lives there. When he moved here he was taken in and essentially adopted by a family here. They put a roof over his head for a year until he could find a place to live and get a job. They consider our son their grandchild and he knows them as his grandparents.
My fiancées mother in the 6 years he has lived here has been visiting family 2 hours away every year and on only 2 occasions one being our sons1st birthday comes to visit, the other time she was here for less than 24 hours. My fiancée has traveled to visit her 5 times in the 6 years. My fiancées mother has never been a good mother by any means there is a lot of tension still from her lack of parenting from when he was a child. My fiancée’s sister has Cerebral Palsy and my fiancée lived with her before he left for the Marine Corps and essential took care of her and her two kids for about 2 years. She is now engaged as well to a good guy who is taking care of her and who loves her. They are getting married this year as well (October)
After everything that has happened my fiancée and I thought things were going to get better after his mom and sister were here for my sons 1st birthday. Although when they were here there was some talk about why we decided to get married before his sister. She felt like it was to 1 up her and we explained to her that we decided to get married in June since we are in a lease option to buy our house and have to purchase it in august and wanted to be married before we had to buy the house plus we knew months before our actual engagement that we would be getting married and had pre planned a lot of what we had wanted. We thought this would make sense to them.
Fast forward 4 months and my fiancée mom tell him that she/ his stepdad/sister/her fiancée/her two kids will most likely not be coming to the wedding because of fiancés. My fiancée is very upset there were words exchanged and my fiancée actually has uninvited his mom/ stepdad/sister/her fiancée/her two kids from the wedding all together. I feel so bad for my Fiancée and I don’t know what to even say. I feel like things as spiraling out of control.