Post # 32
Wow, what a crazy situation. How is your Fiance handling it? Does he see that they are crazy? How is he going to help keep his family in check while backing you? Make sure you have a plan, crazy inlaws can make even the best relationship go toxic.
Post # 33
Ugh, I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. I hope it all ends up okay. If you can I would move a couple of carfulls of the basic neccesities right now so that Saturday is as fast as possible. If they ask about it just tell them your taking some stuff to the thrift store.
Is there any way that just your Fiance can move out stuff on Saturday? It seems like she’s putting all the blame on you for no reason. Maybe if he takes a really firm stand without you there it’ll get the point across. Maybe get other family members that understand the situation (from his side, not yours) to help?
Again I am so sorry! You sound like you’re holding up really well, I know I would not be able to be nearly as rational is you sound like you’re being.
Post # 34
So we let them know we are leaving tomorrow. It went pretty much as expected. The convo with my grandma was brought up. FI’s dad said he was sitting right there and it was a very nice conversation. There are things my grandma will not tell me that were said about me in the conversation by the Mother-In-Law. MIL told my grandma she was a bad mother and hung up on her. I don’t see nice anywhere in there. Father-In-Law said my grandma is a bleeping liar. REAL NICE. I am sooooooooooooooooo angry right now. Someone is going to probably have to hold me back tomorrow if she comes outside.
Post # 35
@dls17: agh! terrible! Let us know how the move went!
Post # 36
Man she seriously seems like a lot to deal with. If I were you I would bring up the fact that even if you wanted to get married in the catholic church which you don’t, you most likely wouldn’t be able to anyways, it’s not as easy as just wanting to get married. You have to be a practicing member of the catholic church, take pre cana classes or whatever it is called, be baptised in the church, and go through your first communion before they will even consider marrying you. Not to mention the months of grueling pre-marital counseling that is required. My mom got married to my step-father a few years ago in the catholic church he was a member and she was not and the process was not a cheap, fast, or easy one. It took months. So I would let her know that because you refuse to take months out of your life to convert that you will not be able to marry in the catholic church anyhow. That should hopefully shut her up. She may have no idea of the process involved.
Post # 37
It’s been a while since we’v heard from you, Bee. Hope everything is okay!
Post # 38
hoping everything is ok, since we haven’t heard from you!