(Closed) Crazy Mom Making Wedding Planning Stressful!

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Hmmm….are you sure youre not missing something?  I think this warrents a little invetsigation.  Is your mom really reacting this way just because of your age?  Why dont you have a long sit down with her, or offer to come to one of her therapy sessions.  If she typically a controlling person, I would think she would try to take over planning the wedding.  The fact that she does not even want to be involved makes me thing something else is awry.  Talk to your mother…she only had your best interest in mind.

Post # 4
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

That’s got to be something, even if you don’t want to admit it to yourself. That’s a lot of hate/drama just because she doesn’t like him. 

Post # 5
695 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, but from what you’ve given us here, she sounds like a toxic relative. Which is not good for your sanity or health, there are tons of resources out there dealing with these types of people, ranges of techniques, which unfortunately go to the extreme of cutting them out of your life. I’m not suggesting that of course, but suggesting you either Google it or go to your local bookstore to help your relationship with her, because this is horrible. 🙁 Good luck and I hope your wedding is beautiful!

Post # 6
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Miss Bear, I am so sorry your family is not supporting you and sharing in the excitement of your wedding.  I think you need to sit down and have a long talk with your mom and get to the root of the problem. If that does not work, you may need to ignore them and just go on with your planning.  Eventually she will give in, and if not then you and your fh can have an intimate wedding.  She will regret not supporting you and being there for you more than you can imagine. 

That said.  My mom is an "I told you so" type of person – so no matter what choice I make she is always against it, that way if it goes wrong she can say "I told you so".  It sounds like your mom may also be like this.

Good luck.

Post # 7
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry to hear about the struggle! I agree with FutureMrsMorgan, are you sure this is all because they just don’t like him? Granted I understand some people just clash, but it’s very odd that they are so opposed, especially since you said they have always been controlling. I do think you should try to sit and talk to your mom without him too. There is obviously some reason that your family has an issue with the whole thing. Take a little time to let them relax, and think about what it is they have to say. It may seem hairbrained, but you never know.

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