- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
My mother is completely driving me insane. She says I wont let her do anything, but she helped pick out my wedding ring and engagement ring. We registered with her. I’ve taken her to several vendor meetings. She’s throwing a shower(that is turning out to be a diaster). She went with me to get my dress(she wouldnt let me buy it online even though i ended up purchasing the same one). She gets mad because I do little things like buy favors without her but at the same time she says shes too busy and everyone expects so much of her and thinks she’s made of money. She badmouths my Maid/Matron of Honor all the time because she’s broke so not giving me a shower.(I’m already having three. DO I need 4?) She wanted to make the cake for my wedding. My fiance is a professional Pastry chef. My mom occasionally makes a baby shower cake. Guess who wins.(my mom is making the shower cake which so far is lopsided, weird, and uneven even though I’ll never tell her that). She even got mad because My Fiancee’s mom is thinner than her when they used to be the same size. My Future Mother-In-Law has a stomach ulcer and can’t eat anything that’s why she’s lost weight. Everything has to be my moms way. SHe isn’t even paying for much. She gave us about 1/6 of the total wedding budget. The rest my fiancees parents have given us. They havent said a thing bad about anything. They just want us to get what we want. Granted, I am a wee bit independant(due to my father, I’ve lived with other families throughout my childhood, so I never was used to relying on anyone until I met my now fiancee and even now that’s kinda something I’m working on is including him in my problems and not just fixing everything) We just fight about everything. I can’t give in to her or the wedding would be a 80s style potluck with balloons and streamers. She even told me she doesn’t like my dress. (she thinks its too plain and doesnt like that I’m not wearing a veil) I’m getting married in 35 days, but in the mean time this is hell on earth. It’s making me not want to be around her, but that means I cant see my little brother either.