Post # 1
Hi all – This might be a nutcase question, but I want to throw it out there: Do I have to tell my employer that I’m pregnant within a certain amount of time (i.e., is there a time frame for this)?
I’m not pregnant yet, but we’re going to start trying after the wedding. My boss has made it quite clear that he believes that once a woman is pregnant, she should stay home with the children – but he can’t do anything to us professionally about his personal views on the matter because we’re protected by our union… but he can voice his opinion on the matter (one of my co-workers just announced that she’s pregnant, which is how this all came up), and it makes me really uncomfortable knowing what he’s been saying to her and about her to others since she’s said she intends to come back to work after maternity leave.
On top of that, I’m just a really private person and I don’t think it’s anyone’s business until I’m either showing or we choose to announce it.
Post # 2
Nope. You can go into labor and call in sick if you want.
Post # 3
anonymous9212213: No, you do not have to tell your employer. If you have a good relationship with your employer, they may take it personally if you do not tell them that you are, but otherwise, no you do not.
Post # 4
Not really, FLMA law states “When the need for FMLA leave is foreseeable at least 30 days in advance” so you could wait quite a while.
Do you have an HR dept? If so I would report the manager who is harassing pregnant female employees. This is creating a hostile workplacein my opinion and is unacceptable. His personal preferance for mothers to not work should be kept to himself.
According to our HR docs –
“A hostile work environment exists when an employee experiences workplace harassment and fears going to work because of the offensive, intimidating, or oppressive atmosphere generated by the harasser.”
“In the Equality Act 2010 harassment is defined as ‘unwanted conduct related to a relevant protected characteristic, which has the purpose or effect of violating an individual’s dignity or creating and intimidating, hostile, degrading, humiliating or offensive environment for that individual’.”
Post # 5
anonymous9212213: You ONLY have to tell your employer if your duties are dangerous for you or your baby. I had to tell my employer the day I found out because being in the veterinary field, many things put my baby at risk, so I couldn’t do them and I needed my boss to know I wasn’t just being lazy (x-rays, anesthesia, heavy lifting, etc). I wish I had the luxury to wait until I was ready, like many other professions, but yeah. If you can get away with waiting until you are farther along, more power to you!
Post # 6
No you can wait. I didn’t tell my coworkers until I was like 25w lol. I did tell HR, I just didn’t want all the attention and thought it was awkward to “announce” a pregnancy. So I told my boss eventually and let her spread it haha. Plus I had just started so I delayed it. You can do whatever you want! I would obviously tell them once by the 3rd trimester just so they can plan because usually certain plans do need to be made.
Post # 7
anonymous9212213: I work in human resources – FMLA does require you to inform your employer in advance, when leave can be prescheduled. However, this can be accomplished by establishing your request for FMLA for your maternity leave with your HR department. Reasons for FMLA leave are confidential (so they should not be sharing any details with your boss) and then you’ve fulfilled your obligation. I would not recommend not saying anything at all, because you need to talk to your HR to find out the details and if you’re entitled to anything else with your company. But I would keep it strictly with them for now. And if your boss asks (when you start showing), you don’t have to answer him or confirm. I’ve had plenty of folks who gave birth without telling their boss. I’ve had someone who worked off-site and didn’t really see their supervisor, and she had her baby and went back to work without her boss ever knowing she was pregnant.
I also second the idea of reporting your supervisor for the harassing comments he’s made.
Post # 8
For clarity, I’m a public high school teacher. We do have an HR department for the school system, but it’s always been made pretty clear (at least at my school) that if we report something and it’s found out who made the complaint, we can expect to have reprecussions. It makes me wary of saying anything. Definitely not an ideal situation.
I know how to call up for a long-term substitute without telling my department head (the one making the comments) – which is the main reason I was asking. That being said, I don’t have a problem telling my principal once it’s apparent.
I’m honestly considering looking for another school for next year if it happens that I get pregnant before the school year lets out.
Thanks again, ladies. Your comments clarified a lot for me.
Post # 9
anonymous9212213: Yikes, you are a teacher? How can someone have this awful of an attitude toward woman in a field that is made up of soooo many woman (including tons of working moms!). I’d wait until you start showing to tell and wouldnt hesitate to begin looking for other opportunities after your leave.