Post # 1
What are some crazy wedding ideas that you were thinking of that you ditched? Or are there any ideas that friends or family members have given you that you just thought, "Are you serious?". At first when I got engaged I went a little overboard with the planning…I think I signed up at Theknot.com and Brides.com two days after we were engaged! I was on the sites looking at dresses, flowers, colors, etc. almost every day! After a few months I calmed downed and only looked at the sites every once in a while! Now I have fallen in love with the weddingbee and only look at the other sites once or twice a month. What can other brides and grooms do to avoid the crazy ideas or crazy family members?! Are there any ideas that you or friends have gone through with for your or their weddings and wish you could or they could take them back?
Post # 3
My hubby had his heart set on having a nacho cheese fountain at the reception and everyone thought it was a crazy idea. We had a four foot tall cheese fountain that was a huge hit that the guests loved. I didn’t get a chance to eat any of it but everyone talked about how good the nachos were.
Post # 4
Before we actually settled on a destination wedding, I thought "Wooo, how about a Winter Ice theme." So I thought that I could buy ice sculpture molds and make ice sculptures for each of our tables. I contacted truck rental companies about refrigerated trucks. It makes me laugh now at how ambitious I was and how logistically impossible that would have been for me to be both the bride and the ice sculpture maker.
Stand fast to your budget. Be realistic about what you can and can’t do. And always remember that the wedding really is about you and your future spouse.
Post # 5
I originally wanted a destination wedding on our $5000 budget. Wheeeee. That’s not happening.
Part of me still wants wedding pie in lieu of cake. I don’t think that’s so crazy. My fiance has baked me pies regularly since early in our relationship. I don’t particularly like cake. I figure I could just ask some relatives to bake a pie or two each, thereby cutting out a huge expense in our limited budget, and getting more tastiness and variety to boot. Fiance insists on a traditional cake. Harumph. It better be a tasty, budget-friendly, pretty cake.
Post # 6
We orginially going to use all sorts of colors. I planned on putting poles in the back yard and stringing them with wire and paper lanterns (no tent). In the end, our colors were blue and green and we used a tent.
I also wanted to wear a colored wedding dress (Neiman Marcus had this bright red gown that was gorgeous- and not promy)- my mom was heartbroken, so I found a white dress and wore it!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
Originally, I wanted to have the centerpieces be fruit bowls (or fruit incorporated with flowers). This was to acknowledge the fruit baggies my sister and I would get every time we visited our Italian grandparents. (What about Mr. MagPie, right? I know!) I wanted to have a framed explanation of this "tradition" (our grandfather would give us each a brown bag, then walk around the kitchen and fill it with a variety of fruits to send home with us), provide bags, and encourage guests to do the same.
Wow, that sounds so silly now! I’m glad I had those ideas, though, because I got through the awkward ones to the really solid, meaningful ones that will make our wedding day so special!
Post # 8
I’m embarassed to say this but I wanted a hawaiian theme and then had the awesome idea of having hula/tahitian dancers. *cheesy* If I was actually IN hawaii, I would have definitely done it, but alas… we’re not.
Post # 9
MagPie, I actually love that idea. it’s so personal and different and cost effective. And it’s favors and centerpieces all in one. I dont think it’s crazy at all!!!
Post # 10
I wanted fish centerpieces. Then a wierd fruit DIY that came out…bad. My Fiance came up with the centerpieces we’re actually going to use (thank goodness!).
My SIL wanted an "eastern" themed wedding in which she would be carried to the altar on a platform by monks. She barely got the idea out of her mouth and everyone was like "Uh, no."
My cousin initially wanted to put candles, like birthday candles, on every tier of her wedding cake and then blow them out (for luck?). Thank goodness the venue didn’t allow candles!!!
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
thanks, MissEsq. i think my issue with the idea arose when i realized it was way more about my sister and me than my fiance and me. totally a great idea for a family party or something, but not as appropriate for a wedding.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp
Mr. Rye wanted to "get away" from the ceremony in a hot air balloon! Actually, I think it was something like a submarine that transforms into a hot air balloon. You know, just in case the fuel runs out when you’re over the lake.
Still toying with this one (though I’m sure you’ll think it’s crazy): Think of it as secret-santa-wedding-guest-toast-competition. In the welcome bag, each guest gets the name of a random(ish) other guest. Their goal, if they choose to accept it, is to introduce themselves to other guest (without them knowing they’re the secret-santa-type-person) and find out as much about them as they can. Then, at the reception, everyone is invited to toast their new guest friend! (i think there will be about 70 at our wedding – plus obviously not everyone will want to do this, natural selection of outgoingness should widdle down the number of toasts!) It would be some kind of toasting competition of some sorts. not clear on that part yet. It would certainly aid the "getting to know you" part of a wedding!
So if that doesn’t work out (I know, it’s a little weird), check this out!!: Ever heard of the summer camp game Assassin?? Mr. Rye was a camp counselor at Camp Orkila – in their version of the game, each person is given another person (to "kill"), a location (to do the "killing"), and a thing (with which to "kill). You don’t know who your assassin is. It’s totally benign, believe it or not! For example, if I was assigned Aunt Sally, on the bench by the large oak tree, with a bandana around her wrist, I have to get her to do that there! You never see it coming! Games like this can take several days – you have to be on the look out 🙂 Our location is a summer camp on the coast for 3 days, so I think this could work out to be lots of fun!!
The most ridiculous idea: Mr. Rye wants our Save-The-Date Cards to have 2 woolly mammoths on it, their tusks interlocked to form a heart. He really likes woolly mammoths. We’ll see about that one 😉
Post # 13
MagPie I agree!! That is such a wonderful idea to remember your grandparents. But like you said it doesnt include your Fiance…but maybe you can do your fruit tradition and also ask him about family traditions and include one. Miss Rye Bread I love your ideas! And The Assassin game sounds fun! It also sounds like the game clue. I think it would be a fun interactive wedding game…sometimes weddings can be stuffy and no one wants that…and an Assassin game would def give a wedding much life! But maybe to tone it down a little just dont include the part where you have to actually get the person to be where they need to be in order to ("Kill") them! And the interlocking woolly mammoth Save-The-Date Cards sound so adorable! But then again I love elephants and wolly mammoths! More elephants though! MightSapphire I’ve seen people have fish…have you ever watched "Who’s Wedding is it anyway?"…they had fish centerpieces on there and it didnt look too bad! LOL at the birthday candles…but cute for goodluck! And at the idea of being carried in to your wedding! I want to feel like a princess at my wedding…but i think its also about your fiance too! Angee nacho cheese sounds yummy!! Fondue is such a big hit at some places too! BonViv thats a big task to put on your wedding! What are you planning to do now that your ice theme is not going to take place? Iviary pie sounds good to me! Weddings dont all have to be about "tradtional" details…it’s about you and your fiance and your personalities. Maureen…When did you get married? I know now they have white dresses that have a little bit of color in them…im thinking of going with a color ribbon in my dress or something like that style. CJ2009 do you watch John And Kate plus 8? They had a wedding renewal in Hawaii and there were dancers and such…even if your not in Hawaii I think it would be fun! Thanks everyone!! I love hearing about everyones ideas and wedding plannings they are going through.
Post # 14
I wanted to have my wedding at a park with a waterfall and get married on the edge of it. My family cut the idea because our eldery members wouldn’t be able to access the ceramony. Oh well…. I still think it would have been beautiful!
Post # 15
I used to picture a winter wedding in the snow, and instead of spending money on a wedding dress, totally splurging on a full-length white fur coat.
Post # 16
I wanted a picnic wedding, complete with quilts for people to sit on, the BM’s carrying parasols and wearing sundresses, me in a short dress, the guys in seersucker, and adorable boxed lunches. Then…. logistics started kicking in… no dj, no dancing. State park = no alcohol. Alas, I had to give up my adorable picnic wedding. 🙁