Post # 1
My best friend is getting married soon and I’m hosting her shower. I just found out that when she registered she just let the sales clerk walk them around the store and registered for anything she suggested instead of worrying about what they actually wanted. They plan on returning all of the gifts they get at the shower and wedding to buy what they really want – or if they can, get the cash. I can’t help but to feel used. I bought her 3 gifts for the shower. 1 joint one from “the bridesmaids” and 2 from me. I bought them because they were on her registry and I thought she really wanted them. I would be so disappointed if I had this shower as a ruse so that she can get gifts just to return them. Is this normal now?
Post # 3
Oh wow, I’ve never heard of someone doing that before. How awful
Post # 4
No. Weirdest and most ungrateful thing I’ve ever heard of! I’d get her nothing if I learned that! What a waste of everyones time and energy.
Post # 5
I didn’t think there was anything more tacky than asking for cash… until now. You’re right to feel creeped out/offended/used and everything else. (The snarky side of me would say to personalize everything you give her so she can’t return it, but that’s just the snarky side of me speaking).
Post # 6
@sweet5k: Sadly this has been talked about and encouraged by some on here before. I personally find it beyond rude.
Post # 7
@sweet5k: This is terrible… If she was going to so it why would she admit it?
Post # 8
@sweet5k: since BB&B stopped letting you return for cash I can’t think of a single store where they’d get it so it makes absolutely no sense to just register for random things and then go back to get something else from the same store. Why do double the work? That is the most random thing I’ve ever heard of.
Post # 9
Obviously that’s a strange thing to do and not very nice.
However, I do think that it highlights a purvasive problem – a traditional shower no longer fufills a need for many people. Most couples who are getting married do not need or want a lot of kitchen/household goods. This is a CONSTANT topic on the boards. I personally would have much prefered to have a shower with an emphasis on the fun and time spent together and no gifts at all.
I detest the waste of owning items you do not need/use and would rather have someone retun a gift I bought them to get a store credit and buy something they actually want.
Post # 10
@sweet5k: Uah. I think that’s what happens if people feel like it’s not okay to ask for money. That’s so ridiculous. and I totally share your feeling of being disappointed.
Post # 11
@cbgg: That is a very good point.
Here in Australia bridal showers are not tradition but unfortunately are catching on. The tradition here is a kitchen tea which is a non gift giving party. It is basically just an afternoon tea with games and drinks. So basically a shower without the showering with gifts part.
Post # 12
@MexiPino: i agree.
it sounds like she’s doing way more work than necessary. why not just pick what you really want now instead of later plus saves time having to return items too.
Post # 13
What a freaking psychopath! I would be seriously considering my friendship if I was in that situation. That just seems like a really immoral thing to do and I would not want to be friends with someone like that as a I think that they would have no qualms doing something to me. Just my opinion.
Post # 14
Not normal. This is really rude and gift grabby. Personally, I’d get them something from another store and make sure it couldn’t be returned for cash. I think this is really terrible to do to your friends and family.
Post # 15
That is dumb and frustrating! May she have trouble returning her gifts! 🙂 Sorry I shouldn’t be so mean, but people like that make me mad! If my mixer isn’t exactly what I choose, I’ll just be glad to have a mixer, I’m selling EVERYTHING to move across country, what I get as gifts are basically all I will have in our kitchen for awhile! So I am not picky by any means! Actually I’ll be happy with whatever I get! 🙂
Post # 16
that is dumb. some people spend (waste in this case) a good amount of time thoughtfully picking items off of people’s registries!!