Post # 1
Fi and I have been fairly ruthless in creating our guest list…. yet – I have about 6 sets of people (3 couples, 3 singles) that I can’t decide if I should invite or not.
The gauge I used for most people that fell in a ‘would like to be there but not essential’ category was if I knew their birthday or not (b’days are a huge deal to me – if you are a close friend, I celebrate your big day!). Easy enough. But, this group of people, while I know their b’days, I don’t really talk to them on a regular basis but when our paths do cross, we share life on more than a surfacey/acquaintance level. We’ve been close in different periods of our lives, but not necessarily so now and I don’t have reason to believe this would be different in the future.
I guess my question is…. how did you decide on people you weren’t sure if you should invite or not. For those already married -are you glad you invited those ‘maybe’ people, or did it even matter in the end?
We are at about 150 people on the list, if that makes a difference. 12-15 more people aren’t going to make or break us, I suppose – but after having our ‘master’ list made a couple weeks ago, I keep coming back to these guests and questioning if I should invite them.
Post # 3
Well, we are having a small wedding (like ~50 guests) so for us the guest list was probably easier. We don’t really have any maybes because everyone that we’ve invited are people that we are really close with. I hope this works out for you!! GL!
Post # 4
For me, if it was “maybe” it was no. We’d just graduated from college when making our guest list, and most of our maybes were college friends. I knew if I wasn’t sure about them then, I shouldn’t invite them. We didn’t regret any of them.
Post # 5
our venue is limited
200 max! that being said, our absolutes are probably going to be just over that, so there will be no maybe’s. a whole different problem, but we’re starting with big cuts (no kids) and work our way to smaller cuts (relevance of their relationship to us).
Post # 6
I agree with Johnsbride09 – if they are a maybe, they’re a no. IF you really wanted them there, they’d be on your list already, you know?
The thing I noticed, is in the last few weeks before we sent out our invites, is people kept getting added to our list. So sure, 12-15 won’t be a big deal now, but what if you get another 10 guests on top of that? It adds up. We wanted 100 people, but eventually had 122 on our list up until about a month ago. It’s now up to 137.