Post # 1
Ok so I have decided that I am going completely untraditional in the fact that I don’t want any flowers at my wedding. Do any of you have an idea as to what to do instead of bouquets? Or should I just do nothing. I mean honestly a bouquet for the bride is pretty useless, you carry it down the aisle then give it to your Maid/Matron of Honor. I’m not going to do the bouquet toss, so I don’t need it then either.
But I just didn’t know if I should have by Bridesmaid or Best Man carry something or just have everyone walk down the aisle with nothing. What do you all think? Any ideas would be GREAT!!!
Post # 3
Hmm. I don’t think flowers are necessary at all, but as a bridesmaid, I think it would be nice to have something to occupy my hands while I stand up at the altar. otherwise I’ll be tempted to scratch or smooth my hair or pick at my gown, and that will make for some distracting photos. But I’m a fidgety person (as I’m sure you can tell by now!).
However, as far as other suggestions – I have no idea! I’ll let other more creative ladies give you advice. : )
Post # 4
If it’s outdoors you could have them carry a parisole. I’ve seen that done and it’s beautiful!! Or, you could have them carry brandy sniffters (sp?), you know, those glasses that look like big red wine glasses but with short squatty stems. We use to use them in the dance troupe I was in. We’d take a votive, light it and drip just enough wax to make it stand up straight. You can also use a little puddy or something else sticky. The glass protects their hands from the heat and the flame from the air. We use to dance with them and they rairly went out.
Post # 5
I’m having a beach wedding and was planning to use parasol’s for the girls. i love hearing that i’m not the only bride not wanting to deal with flowers.
Post # 6
If it’s indoors what about each of them carrying a candle! i love candles and I think it would bring a nice mood/ambience to the ceremony.
Post # 7
Parasols, fans, Large shells or or a bucket of shells for a beach wedding, a bible, a purse, each could carry something from stages of your relationship…. a bat for a trip to a ball game, a flag for the fourth of july picnic, etc. If it is an evening wedding candles might be nice. Have the church all aglow in candlelight?
Post # 8
There’s a bee who didn’t have a bouquet, and she did just fine not holding onto anything…I just can’t remember which bee it is.
Some cultures/traditions have brides carry bibles, candles, a momento, or nothing at all. If your biggest concern is what your girls are going to do with their hands, you can pair them with a groomsmen and that way they can loop one arm down the ailse.
Post # 9
Thanks for all of the ideas. I would prefer not to have them carry anything. My answer for my Bridesmaid or Best Man who said they wanted something to carry so they wouldn’t fidget was, well the guys don’t carry anything, and what do they do??? They stand there. My girls are going to walk down the aisle with the Groomsmen. So that aspect won’t be a problem.
My wedding is in Estes Park Colorado in August so its in the mountains. I like the candle idea, but i’ll have to see.
My decorations are going to be a more zen style. Such as using water tranquility fountains, bamboo, type stuff.
Post # 10
Well – if you don’t want them to carry anything, then don’t have them carry anything! It’s your decision.
Post # 11
What about hurricane lamps or lanterns? That way the flame won’t go out halfway down the aisle…
Post # 12
for my hawaii wedding – i’m carrying my late mother’s bible and her rosary
for our so-cal wedding, im carrying a bouquet
i agree with the parasol (if it’s outside) or the hurricanes if it’s inside church – will the church coordinator allow those??
Post # 13
You always have to remind the guys not to stand around with their hands in their pockets. Or they just clasp hands in front of their bellies (not such a good look sometimes for the BMs – out come the batwings).
Post # 14
I know you said you didnt want them to carry anything but something these fans might be really cute with your zen theme
I think it would be pretty fun for the bridemaids too
Post # 15
What about carrying some bamboo? They have little potted plants or a bouquet of bamboo??
Post # 16
We are doing Martha Stewart crape paper roses. That is my compromise. I am not a flower girl. We also thought about lit candles or maybe purses?