To @pineapplez17: you asked:
Is it still appropriate to do a newspaper announcement even if it’s been publicly announced via social media (ie status change) and there’s already been an engagement party? I hadn’t really considered putting an announcement in the paper, but my mom mentioned it and I think it’s something she’d like to do. We got engaged in July, had a party in September (hosted by our families), but our wedding isn’t until April 2015, so there would be plenty of time.
YES it would still be fine to do… anywhere from a year out (April 2014) thru to a few months ahead of the Wedding.
In so much, as Engagements used to be a year or less in length, with a tendancy now to longer Engagements… Announcements can be published in the Newspaper either when the Engagement takes place, or as I say in the year or under timeframe.
Typically Engagement Announcements published in the Newspaper include a bit of info about the two of you, info on your Parents, and that the Wedding is upcoming (in some fashion)**.
And the wording can reflect “traditional” elements where either the Bride’s Parents are pleased to make the Announcement… BOTH Families, or the Couple can announce on their own.
** There is no need to be specific about the date… infact being vague is probably a better decision any how (no need to attract the attention of an possible burglars who will thus know when they’ll be out of the house).
Instead it is ok to say something along the lines of:
- A Wedding for 2015 is planned
- A Spring 2015 Wedding is planned
NOW to be certain, Newspaper Engagement or Wedding Announcements (done after the fact) are not cheap !!
And more so if you include a photo. But there is certainly some caché to having one’s Announcement in the paper… and it will be therefore preserved “for all time” (as Newspapers are achieved forever). Fun therefore for yourself and Future Generations to look back on.
A Newspaper Announcement could cost several 100s of Dollars if one lives in a larger cosmopolitan area… BUT that could work out to be a lot cheaper than sending out printed Save-The-Date Cards… and with today’s technology and Newspapers being on-line, you could certainly skip Save-The-Date Cards all together and when anyone asks “Hey I heard you got engaged” you could definitely say YES we did… here’s the link if you wish to check out our Announcement
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RE – FACEBOOK
Other than changing one’s Status on FaceBook, I cannot say I am a fan of posting a bunch of Engagement Photos or making an Announcement on FaceBook.
Unlike a Newspaper Announcement, FaceBook altho PUBLIC tends to be perceived as “Private” communication with others…
AND HENCE WHY… you hear stories here on WBee about how sooo many Couples see themselves inundated with Inquiries about the Wedding, Invitations etc from “Acquaintances” shortly after getting Engaged… and how awkward it can become.
The rule of thumb with FaceBook… is LESS IS MORE
When you put your life out there on Social Media (vs regular media) … people see themselves as part of your “social” circle (which is a lot wider electronically than in person… all those “FB Friends” not being FRIENDS IN REAL LIFE necessarily) believe they have the right to comment on your life, as you’ve chosen to be an OPEN BOOK.
OVERSHARING Wedding Info on FaceBook is a recipe for disaster… DRAMA & TRAUMA, in my opinion.
Hope this helps,