(Closed) Creative ways to ask for MONEY as a wedding gift, without being tacky??

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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lauren2on:  straight answer: nope

Post # 17
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Please don’t with the poem. That worked when it was new, but now is really stale and obvious. Use PP’s suggestions re spreading the word or not registering. 

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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lauren2on:  we just didn’t register. Some people gave us gifts, most gave us money. At the end of the day it was up to the guest to decide if/what they wanted to gift us 

Post # 20
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Helper bee

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lauren2on: I know a couple who bluntly just asked for money, and people were okay with it generally, but it’s still something that people talk about.

For asking for honey moon fund money, people have used things like HoneyFund.com, which at least gives people the impression that they are buying the couple something, even though really they are just giving cash through an intermediary.

 

 

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Make a tiny registry or none at all, and spread by word of mouth that you’re saving for X thing. There is no polite way to ask for money, and frankly if I saw some cheesy poem like that I would probably give less than I normally do.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee

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lauren2on:  No don’t put anything about gifts on the invite. That’s tacky. Just put nothing. People will ask where you are registered. We just say, “well we didnt’ register for gifts because we have really limited space in our apartment/we already have everything we need”. People get  the message and I think pretty much everyone will give us cash. 

Post # 24
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Honey Beekeeper

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lauren2on:  “Word of mouth” or a discreet mention on a wedding website is only tolerated when guests  search out the existence of a  registry that the couple is keeping for their own purposes.  

It is never appropriate under any circumstances or in any way, shape, or form, to come out and ask for money. 

Not registering for physical gifts does not imply you want money. It properly implies that you are not thinking about gifts at all. People who want to give you a present will draw their own conclusions. 

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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lauren2on:  Unfortunately, I think those little poems, etc are super tacky. Just don’t register for anything and people will get the hint. We registered and still got all cash gifts at the wedding – in my circle, you give money and not gifts.

Post # 26
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Helper bee

Don’t people usually bring money to a wedding? Or is that just the norm where I’m from?

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Poems BARF!!!! Ugh, please don’t even. Just don’t have a registry. If you wind up with a few crappy things you don’t need it’s not the end of the world.

Post # 28
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Helper bee

Asking for gifts is wrong. Asking for money is wrong. Be gracious. Take what you get and be happy.

Money isn’t everything in life. If you can’t afford something you shouldn’t buy it. So if you have to have people give you money to help you afford something you shouldn’t buy it. Save your money until you can afford it. If that means putting off a honeymoon while you save then so be it.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Honestly, I roll my eyes at those poems, I hate them! Just don’t put anything and don’t register, that’s what we did for our enagagement and we got a mix of lovely gifts and money

Post # 30
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Gemma1million:  That’s not better. Sorry.

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