(Closed) Creative ways to ask men to be groomsmen?

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

BUMP cos I also want answers!

I came on here to ask this very question – I made boxes for my Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man, so my partner wants to do *something* for his Bridesmaid or Best Man & Groomsmen. But nothing too over the top. All the boys are nerdy (work/ed in the same IT dept) so maybe I’ll find something in that theme.

Any ideas?

Post # 4
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

let the groom handle this, in his own style. It’s not the bride’s place.

Post # 5
295 posts
Helper bee

My So received the groomsman  invite by card or is this not special enough?

Post # 6
2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

+1 to fishbone’s response

I know this is very much a gender stereotype, but I don’t think men get as excited about it as women do.  Have your Fiance take them out to eat and ask them.  Boom- free food, hanging out with friends…that was what my groomsmen enjoyed.

Post # 7
554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Don’t worry, I don’t plan on hijacking my partner’s plans! I’ve no intention of stepping on his toes with the guy issues. He’s already sounded out the Best Man, but wanted to do *something* a bit more to officially ask them.

I showed him some pics from Pinterest – bottles of booze, cigars etc. For now he’s thnking of something to do with The Bro Code, which is pretty cool.


Post # 8
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

When Fiance asked his older brother to be his best man, the conversation went as follows (I was standing right there, so this is accurate):

Fiance: “What are you doing the day of our wedding?”

Big Bro: “Uh… Well, I’ll probably be attending your wedding.” (subtext: I’ll obviously be attending your wedding)

Fiance: “Want to be my best man?”

It was pretty funny, and possibly my favorite wedding-related moment to date. SO awkward. 

But if you’re creative and someone is nerdy, what about doing a small comic book (not a giant graphic novel) where you draw a few frames with your Fiance taking the guy for a beer or whatever setting, then asks him and it says “to be continued…” *I’m such a geek*

Post # 9
554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@candykristina:  that’s pretty cool!

My partner has only spoken to best man so far. He’s kinda freaked about the speech so I told him not to worry cos my sister/MOH would be drunk & crying for her speech.

Post # 10
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@babybug0507: The way that my Fiance was asked to be a groomsman was actually really cute. The couple had everyone over and had put custom labels onto beer bottles that said “Groomsman” and “Best Man”

It took the guys a while to figure it out (their ladies were all dying of laughter and wanting to say something) but it was actually adorable and my Fiance kept the bottle 🙂


For ones that don’t drink you can put the labels onto something else? Bottled Water maybe??? Or Sparkling Water?

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