Post # 1
Hi all! I am big on going a bit ‘over the top’ to show people how much they mean to me and asking our friends to be a part of our wedding party is no different. I already have the bridesmaids, jr bridesmaids, flower girls, and ring bearer figured out but I am at a stand still when it comes to the groomsmen. I don’t want to do anything expensive, just something little that would be creative. I have been browsing for days and all I really find is things that have to do with alcohol, cigars, etc. Not all of my groomsmen smoke and/or drink so this would not be an option for me. I also have 2 jr groomsmen as well. So does anyone have any creative ideas on how we can ask them and let them know how special they are to us? Thanks! 🙂
Post # 3
BUMP cos I also want answers!
I came on here to ask this very question – I made boxes for my Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man, so my partner wants to do *something* for his Bridesmaid or Best Man & Groomsmen. But nothing too over the top. All the boys are nerdy (work/ed in the same IT dept) so maybe I’ll find something in that theme.
Post # 4
let the groom handle this, in his own style. It’s not the bride’s place.
Post # 5
My So received the groomsman invite by card or is this not special enough?
Post # 6
+1 to fishbone’s response
I know this is very much a gender stereotype, but I don’t think men get as excited about it as women do. Have your Fiance take them out to eat and ask them. Boom- free food, hanging out with friends…that was what my groomsmen enjoyed.
Post # 7
Don’t worry, I don’t plan on hijacking my partner’s plans! I’ve no intention of stepping on his toes with the guy issues. He’s already sounded out the Best Man, but wanted to do *something* a bit more to officially ask them.
I showed him some pics from Pinterest – bottles of booze, cigars etc. For now he’s thnking of something to do with The Bro Code, which is pretty cool.
Post # 8
When Fiance asked his older brother to be his best man, the conversation went as follows (I was standing right there, so this is accurate):
Fiance: “What are you doing the day of our wedding?”
Big Bro: “Uh… Well, I’ll probably be attending your wedding.” (subtext: I’ll obviously be attending your wedding)
Fiance: “Want to be my best man?”
It was pretty funny, and possibly my favorite wedding-related moment to date. SO awkward.
But if you’re creative and someone is nerdy, what about doing a small comic book (not a giant graphic novel) where you draw a few frames with your Fiance taking the guy for a beer or whatever setting, then asks him and it says “to be continued…” *I’m such a geek*
Post # 9
@candykristina: that’s pretty cool!
My partner has only spoken to best man so far. He’s kinda freaked about the speech so I told him not to worry cos my sister/MOH would be drunk & crying for her speech.
Post # 10
@babybug0507: The way that my Fiance was asked to be a groomsman was actually really cute. The couple had everyone over and had put custom labels onto beer bottles that said “Groomsman” and “Best Man”
It took the guys a while to figure it out (their ladies were all dying of laughter and wanting to say something) but it was actually adorable and my Fiance kept the bottle 🙂
For ones that don’t drink you can put the labels onto something else? Bottled Water maybe??? Or Sparkling Water?