Creative Wording For Being “Given Away”?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

He’s upset even though you still want him to walk you down the aisle, just because instead of him physically handing you off to your Fiance you want him to just hug you instead?  🙁  Hmm

I was trying to think of something creative – all that’s coming to mind is that you can say he’s escorting you, which is not really creative (in fact, pretty literal), but it’s at least different than saying he’s “giving you away” since you don’t like the connotation behind that phrase.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Escort you down the aislE?

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The wording we’re probably to have the priest use is “Who supports this woman in her marriage to this man?” to which my dad can answer “Her mother and I do”. I didn’t like the idea of being given away, but I do like the idea of having parents give their support. We’re also going to have the same question asked to FI’s parents because we like things being equal.Smile

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We are doing “who supports these two on their wedding day and this marriage..” or something like that (not religious either). and all 4 of our parents are saying “we do”

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Some ideas:

 

(1) Bride’s Parents:

“Who gives this woman to be married to this man?”

Father and /or Mother – “I do/We do”

For the Modern woman

Who brings this woman to be married to this man?

Father and /or Mother – “I do/We do”

(2) Bride and Groom’s Parents:

“Do you,  the parents of the bride and groom (or, insert the names of bride and groom’s parents) give your blessing to this couple and promise them your continued love and support, upholding them in their marriage?”

Answer: “We do”

(3) Guest Affirmation:

“Will all of you witnessing these vows do everything in your power to uphold (bride) and (groom) in their marriage?”

Answer: “We will”

This affirmation may also be interjected with humour:

I am going to ask all of you a question but don’t worry here is the answer- “We will!”

Now for the question: “Will all of you hearing these vows do everything in your power to uphold our couple in their marriage. And the answer is?” – “We will !”

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

We have a few options

Who stands with this woman to symbolize her family’s support of this union?

Who stands with this woman in support and blessing of this marriage?

I like the second one the best.  My brother will be with me.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’ve also read somewhere that it could be “Who presents this woman…”  I like the PP wording of supports though

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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You could say;

‘who presents this Bride for marriage’

and your father could say ‘Her family and I’

or

‘She presents herself with with her families blessing’

I’ve never even thought about this part of the ceremony! EEK!

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My ceremony wording will be, “Who brings this woman to join with this man in marriage?”  I didn’t like the whole implication of the wording “who gives this woman…”  It’s probably just semantics, but I felt like “brings” was more my dad walking with me, not giving me away like I’m chattel.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Who presents this woman?

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I also do not want this wording used. Currently I’m leaning towards just a hug & dad going to his seat, but I suppose he could read a short poem or something of the like. 

You need to make him see that this is not about HIM, it is about YOU. YOU are not property, and YOU cannot be “given away”.

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