Post # 1
So whenever my husband goes to dinner with his friends (usually 5 of them) they play “credit card roulette.” Everyone gives a credit card and either the waitress randomly picks one, or one person has them under the table mixed up, someone says 3rd card (etc.) and that person has to pay the whole bill.
Well yesterday my lucky husband was the one that was chosen to pay for the meal. While this is a game of chance (and all these boys love gambling), I’m not happy with it. I understand that he has gotten free meals in the past from this, but I would rather everyone take turns paying the bill, or everyone should just pay for their own meal.
All of his friends are single and have no responsibilities. It is their money, and their money alone to do what they wish with it. We are currently paying for my husbands schooling and just purchased him a $2000 item he wanted.
While the bill he had to pay was only about $165 (which isn’t too bad seeing as though I spend that at Target regularly) it just pisses me off that he has to pay for his friends. I’m not a big fan of his friends, and regularly have them over and feed them.
Does your husband play this “game” and would you be mad?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
My Fiance doesn’t ever even go out with his friends, so no, he doesn’t do that. However, I wouldn’t be mad because chances are that if they do this very often, it’s approximately the same as taking turns or always paying for themselves. I think you’re just mad that you got stuck with the bill, but 4 times out of 5 he probably eats free, and you should just accept it. It’s not like he’s paying for all of them all the time.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I’ve never heard of this game, but I wouldn’t give a hoot if Mr. LK and his friends chose to handle things this way. We regularly enjoy treating friends and family to meals. In fact, I picked up the girl’s night out bill this past weekend. We agree that any purchase under $200 does not need to be discussed with the other person, so it was no big deal.
Post # 5
I think $165 tab for 5 guys is so cheap! You guys should agree on a spending money budget & he can be free to spend it however he chooses. If he doesn’t have enough then he shouldn’t participate.
Post # 6
If he’s not going to play, then he needs to permanently bow out of the game. It’s really unfair for him to enjoy the game when his friends pick up the check and protest when he has to pay. The main idea of this system that over time it will eventually work out to being pretty even. Since he’s gotten free meals before (that his friends paid for), it’s not unreasonable that sometimes he has to pay for their meals.
Post # 7
No, but I could see my Darling Husband doing this. Eh, I think you are letting the fact that you don’t like your DH’s friends cloud your judgement, eps. since you mentioned that you spend the same amount yourself.
If money was really an issue, then sure, I think it would warrent a talk. But to force your Darling Husband to pay for his own meal while his friends do this game will probably make him feel a bit like an outsider when he is with his friends.
Post # 8
YES! My husband played this game ONCE. And of course he lost, and paid for 8 peoples lunch that day. That day happen to be a big outing and for some reason they thought it was a fun idea. And who thought of the idea.. .yeah, my smart ass husband. They kinda thought it’d be a thing going forward, but it never happened again, so he never got his free lunches, or had to pay up again thankfully. It was a pretty good laugh for the table cause he’s known for being really frugal. It sucked that he paid almost $200 for that lunch and I was pretty pissed, but at the end of the day, $200 wasnt that big a deal so I let it go after telling him he better make it up with some overtime, sort of jokingly… which I think he did.
Post # 9
Yes, mine plays with it with guys in his squadron. I think it’s ridiculous, but more from a maturity standpoint than a financial one since we can afford it. You aren’t 21 years old, pay for your own $#@! drinks.
Post # 10
Thanks guys. I know I shouldn’t be mad about it, I think its more that we are spending all this money to put him through school, then he got a $1700 item, and he has to spend about $500 more on accessories for it… When really we both want to save up for a house, and yeah. I need to get over it. Woke up on the wrong side of the bed 🙁
Post # 11
It sounds like you are resentful over his spending, and the expense of his school and whatever else you just spent $2K on. That is the real issue. Not the $165 dinner. Why don’t you guys work together to create a better budget?
Post # 12
I’ve participated in this a couple times… I don’t see the big deal. It all evens out at some point.
Post # 13
This really doesn’t bother me as long as it’s the same group of people and they dine together frequently enough that it ends up all evening out in the end. Like if they went out once a year, it wouldn’t be fair, but if they’re going out every few weeks, then chances are it ends up being fair in the long run.
It does save everyone the hassle and embarassment of fighting for the check or dividing it down to the penny. It’s kind of awkward when two people (in our social circle it’s usually the guys but women do it too) both insist on paying and neither one wants to accept a gift, and it’s really horrible and annoying to be at a table of “calculator people” who will add up every single item per person. Really I don’t care if your entree was $2 more than mine, here’s a freakin dollar, can we please leave now?
If your husband thinks it’s fair then I think you need to trust his judgement. And if you thought it was fair when your husband was the one getting the free meals, then it’s still fair now that it’s his turn to pony up.
Post # 14
@fishbone: I totally do not think it’s fair when his friends have to pay. I always feel bad for them too!
Post # 15
Yeah like others said it sounds like it was fine up until it was his turn to pay… Maybe it would be better if he just declined playing the game anymore if money is tight (or he should opt to pack a lunch).
Post # 16
@Monkey786: You guys thought it was fair enough that he’s still going to these dinners. If you or he really objected to how the bills were handled, he should have stopped going.