Post # 17
My husband can do whatever he wants to do with his $. We each get an allowance each pay period to do with as we choose. All of our $ for bills/household/savings are handled out of different accounts.
Sharing 100% of the $$ could never work for DH and I. I’d never want anyone getting on me about how I spend $200 and it’s really none of my business what he chooses to do with his cash.
Post # 18
We personally wouldn’t handle paying for a tab like this because we tend to be pretty frugal when we go out, unless it’s for a special occasion. However, sounds like the bigger problem here is determining what is/isn’t okay for you guys both to spend when you’re out with your friends. Budget talks are no fun, but they’re definitely necessary. Good luck!
Post # 19
No, DH doesn’t play this game but I really don’t see the issue with it. If they all “take turns” why does it matter if it’s random or not? I agree with everything Fishbone has said, if it’s a frequent occurence it all evens out. I’m having a hard time understanding why you’re upset. If it’s about the way he’s spending money (and you would be upset about him paying for just himself when going out each time) maybe it’s time to sit down and draw up a new budget.
Post # 20
I don’t like the idea of this game at all haha! I guess it’s less than they’d spend if they ACTUALLY gambled, but still. I’d rather split the bill or take turns paying.
Post # 21
Maybe the restaurants just know how cheap Canadians are because I don’t think I’ve been to a restaurant in ages that didn’t subtotal by seat. Kinda eliminates worrying about figuring how to split a bill with a calculator.
I agree though if they go out often enough that it evens out, then it’s no big deal.
Post # 22
OMG I remember this about visiting Montreal. They always gave separate checks – makes group dining so much easier. We always have to ask here in the US for separate checks, and sometimes they don’t like to do it.
Post # 23
i don’t remember that about canada, but i love that! in central america they’re awesome about people paying seperately/paying when they leave way before the rest of the party. NY restaurants HATE splitting checks, though.
Post # 24
If you dont like the idea of it, how about everytime he plays the game and gets a free meal he socks $30 in a jar. Then when its his time to play, he pays out of that jar so you dont get hit with the cash expenditure all at once.
Post # 25
I’ve never personally participated in this game, but I’ve seen others do it. I think communication with your husband is key – if it truly is an issue that you think it’s unfair all the way around, perhaps he should just stop participating and pay his own way every time. Then this wouldn’t be an issue! I wouldn’t love this either, but of the two of us, Mr. O is much more conservative so I don’t think he would ever consent to playing a game like this.
Post # 27
Maybe in the future they should just find somewhere less expensive to eat? That averages out to $32 per person. If money is a big deal, just find somewhere less expensive to eat.
Post # 28
oooo i do love this idea!!
Post # 29
I’d be annoyed with that to be honest. We aren’t rich.
Thankfully Fiance is very responsible financially and wouldn’t do this.
Post # 30
I don’t see a problem of this. I think a guy can treat his friends to dinner once in a while, no big deal. And really, he’s just paying them back as they’ve paid for his dinner before.
Post # 31
Fiance would never do this. I’d kill him! Ha. Credit card roulette is something you play when you’re single and have no responsibilities. Not something you play when you have combined incomes and school etc.
Unless you guys have it within your budget for you each to have your own “play money” to go out with etc and he only uses that money.. this is not cool.