Critical MIL and gossips

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 3
2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

warriorgirl :  How does she make you feel guilty for not spending all of your time with her? LIke what is she saying or doing? How often do you currently see her?

I’ve heard my Mother-In-Law bad mouth the other SO’s of my husbands siblings, so it’s crossed my mind that perhaps she does it about me too but honestly I don’t really care. As long as she isn’t talking shit about me to my husband and trying to get in between us, it doesn’t bother me. Some people just like to gossip or find things to talk about, doesn’t make them true and it’s not something you should spend so much time worrying about.

There’s no reason you shouldnt have children because you’re worried about your Mother-In-Law, you and your husband just need to create boundaries with her and stick to those boundaries.

Post # 4
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I have to limit my contact with future mother in law because she’s judgmental and gossipy. I really struggle with people like that and I usually have to tell them that I don’t like judging people based on her stupid prejudices. I hold my tounge for my fiancé’s sake, he wants us to get on. So I see them once every few months for birthdays and at Christmas, but make sure I’m working on weekends he’s going round. That way I can blame my job for me not seeing her more often.

Post # 5
11652 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

If she is saying bad things about someone else to you when you first meet her, she’s saying bad things about you to them.

that’s a given.

I don’t blame you for not wanting to be around that, this kind of thing makes me really uncomfortable as I don’t talk behind my friends’ and family’s backs.

Try not to engage her when she starts in. as far as the future goes, If she doesn’t model good behavior, limit her time alone with your kids. 

Post # 6
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I know my Mother-In-Law doesn’t really “accept” me and compares me to other DIL in the family. I just try to ignore her and let Darling Husband deal with her. His mother, his problem. 

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