(Closed) Critical/posh guests

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I couldn’t agree more! I actually got upset with Fi for making comments about a wedding we went to this weekend. He’s turning into a bit of a groomzilla.

But everyone should be free to plan their wedding however they want. I know I’m stressing enough trying to please everyone. I hope people can be polite enough to keep their mouth shut if they don’t like something.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sasi:  Some people just live to bitch!! The key is to be the most gracious bride OF ALL TIME! At my sister’s wedding, someone complained TO HER that the buffet line was taking too long and they were hungry. She smiled serenely and said “I’m so glad you’re having a good time.”  ‘Nuff said!

Just gotta arm yourself with a list of lovely and wonderful things to say to people who complain, and they’ll be the ones looking bad, not you! My other favorites is the old “I’m just glad you could make it out to support me on such a special day!” Translation: quit being an @$$hole!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sasi:  AWESOME!!!

This morning my Fi pointed out that he has basically been drunk every night this week (we went to Total Wine and bought a crapload of awesome beer over the weekend, so we keep wanting to try all the different brews and end up drinking a few more than anticipated). I told him, “hey, whatever gets you down the aisle works for me.”  And he said, “what? I don’t need to be drunk to marry you. I’m not even nervous!”  How bout that!?!?  So excited!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sasi:  giiiiirl welcome to my life the past few weeks.

We have decided to not have a best man. It is completely FI’s decision, but his family will NOT accept it (they just assumed he would ask his cousin). They have made it very clear that it does not matter how wonderful and perfect the day is or how much time we put into our wedding, the only thing they will remember is that there was no best man.

I think that people should just shhh when it comes to another couple’s wedding…after all, the couple is paying for you to come and eat, drink and party. Why do people feel they have the right to criticize ANYTHING?

You know those “eat, drink & be married” signs? I wish I could have one for FI’s family that says “eat, drink & SHUT UP”.

Sorry to be a jerk. I just am super sensitive about this right now!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have a step-grandmother who always has something to say and through the years I’ve perfected my technique of addressing her comments which usually revolve around how awesome something her own kids did was or how grand her old house/car/boat was.

I smile, nod and say “Oh how nice!” and then walk away.

As my Dad says, we’re never going to “beat” her, she’ll one up anything we do, so no use worrying about trying to impress her or make her happy.

Three years ago I bought a new to me Jeep Grand Cherokee, first car I ever bought. I was super proud of it. Step-grandma also has a Jeep Grand Cherokee that was an older model, less than a week after my purchase their Jeep “blew up” and she called just to tell me how excited they were that they got a 2005 Jeep Grand Cherokee Limited with a hemi to replace their old one. And did my Jeep have a hemi?

Seriously?

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@soyjoy222:  “eat, drink & SHUT UP” <— LOVE IT!!! I need about 100 of these signs for our wedding!!!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@soyjoy222:  Well, I guess a certain amount of complaining from PARENTS is to be expected … just ignore it, and if need be, have a momentary bridezilla meltdown where you screech “this is the LAST we are going to be hearing about the best man, okay??! It’s happening. Get over it!”

It’s so much more annoying when it comes from random guest #7 though. Like, seriously? All you had to do was show up in a suit, and suddenly you’re all opinionated about the quality of the food??

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I worry about this.  The owner of FI’s company is flying in from Cali to attend our wedding.  He is a multi-millionaire and his date’s outfit will most likely cost more than our entire wedding.  Our wedding is a casual affair at a minor league stadium.  Very quirky and “us” but I am terrified as to how these swank people are going to feel about a wedding on a baseball diamond and a buffet style meal!  Ugh.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@RahlyRah:  I know what you mean … we’ve got a few richy-riches coming, including a couple getting married soon after us whose wedding dress alone probably cost nearly as much as my entire wedding! But I’m not worried — I’m sure that even if they think everything sucks, they’ll have enough class to wait til the car ride home to start  comparing.  You can’t spell upper class without class, right? I hope?!?!

And hey, just keep those gracious smiles ready to go! Practice your “I’m SO glad you’re having a good time!” in the mirror Wink

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sasi:  It is literally driving me batty that the best man thing is all they care about and all they will remember from an other wise nice, well planned affair! I dont complain about people’s weddings because I am just glad to be invited!

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