Post # 1
Hello! Myself and fiance have planned our wedding ourselves with little input. We are the first of our generation/families to get married so any thoughts would be amazing.
10.00am – bridesmaids/bride hair and make up at hotel. Getting ready pictures etc.
2.15pm- 30 guests arrive at the town hall for small service
3.00pm – 100 reception guests arrive at venue. Jazz band playing, unlimited cocktails/canapes
3.30pm – ceremony guests arrive at reception venue via an old London bus with champagne. Pictures etc happen as jazz band and drinks continue until dinner.
5. 30pm – 130 guests sit down three course dinner (including steaks, fillets of fish, etc) with half a bottle of wine per person.
7.15pm – speeches, cake cutting
7.45 – first dance. Then DJ until midnight with full open bar.
Venue will put out cake at 8.30pm. At 10pm there will be a pizza buffet. We also have a vintage photo booth that will be available from when the DJ starts.
Is this enough entertainment? Do these timelines seem to close together/too much time for standing around? Any advice so appreciated!
Post # 2
I think it sounds great!
Just one thing: the 2 1/2 hours of cocktail may be too much. Where is this going to take place? Can you sit down? Do you expect people to arrive late?
Post # 3
Is there any reason you have your reception only guests arriving that much earlier than everyone else? A 2 hour cocktail hour is awfully long to wait on the bride and the groom, especially since they won’t have had the chance to see you yet unlike the ceremony guests.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
Two hours is way too long for cocktail hour.
Post # 5
Thanks for this! I was a bit worried about it being way too long too. The venue said it would be a good amount of time due to having a live band playing (plus canapés and refilling drinks) but I agree it sounds quite dull! There are lots of places to sit/an outside, but it does feel so long.
The reception guests have been asked to arrive at 3.00-3.15pm. Then the ceremony guests (and us) will arrive at 3.30pm at the reception venue. We did this as our parents wanted more people at the ceremony but we weren’t comfortable with it, so agreed to have them all there for a big arrival instead. 3.00-3.15 gives people time for people to arrive/find the venue
Post # 6
Also to be clear we will arrive with the ceremony guests at 3.30pm. Then we will hang out with our guests until about 4, then go and do photos. Then back about 4.45 to mingle. I expect everyone will be being sat down to dinner around 5.20
Post # 7
Shorter cocktail and longer meal. 3 courses is a lot, especially with 130 people to serve. You want people to enjoy their food, not feel pressured to eat faster because someone is already being served their next dish.
If you are insisting on a longer cocktail hour, maybe hire some kind of entertainer to make it fun for the crowd. Waiting guests are not happy guest (believe me, I’ve been their).
Post # 8
theweddingunplanner : thank for this I didn’t think of that! Dinner can go on longer easily if people take longer, this is just how long the venue expects serving/eating to last. I’ll make sure to let them know we are happy for it to take longer if people are slow.
We have a really funky jazz band playing, a young cool one as opposed to a traditional wedding band. Do you think this would be enough in terms of entertainment?
Post # 9
My only question is – how many bridesmaids are you having? Is 4 hrs enough time for hair/makeup/photos and transport to the ceremony?
Post # 10
sbl99 : hello and thank you for your help! I’m only having one who is my sister, so I actually thought this was quite a lot of time but the lady insisted on it. Leaves us lots of time for photos at least!
The venue is about a 5 minute walk from our hotel so no problems there.
Post # 11
theroo123 : I don’t know, i feel like the people who arrive at 3 might start feeling a little tired after 2 hours. But you know your guests better than anyone else and if they all enjoy this type of entertainment it’s probably fine.
Somewhat off topic, but I also wanna add that you should plan some food for yourself (and the groom) for the morning and lunchtime. It’s a long day and it’s easy to forget to eat and stay hydrated because there’s so much going on.