Post # 1
Bees, I need your always fantastic advice…
I recently found out you can get married on a cruise ship, and I LOVE the idea (especially because I really want to honeymoon on a cruise ship). Not only do I want to cruise for my honeymoon, but like many, I was given a pretty tight budget, and the cruise ship wedding comes in at less than $6,000 for 50 guests!! I think that’s pretty incredible considering it includes EVERYTHING–from the wine or champagne and elegant 4-course meal to the ceremony and photography.
But as perfect as it seems, here comes the problem: the distance to Galveston. Only 6 of my guests (my MOH/her boyfriend, 1 BM and her family members) live in Texas. The rest of us have a 9 hour drive to Galveston. Would it be rude to ask my guests to drive 9 hours or spend money on a plane ticket just to attend my wedding? I have a perfectly beautiful and insanely cheap venue in my hometown, in which almost everyone lives within 30 minutes from. But the idea of a cruise ship wedding just makes me swoon…
Post # 2
Is it like you cruise around for a while and come back after the wedding or like an overnight type thing?
Post # 3
No, I don’t think it’s rude. However, you need to be prepared that people may not come. If this is important to you to have everyone there, then have the wedding in your hometown.
Post # 4
It’s not rude, it’s a destination wedding. But, be prepared for people RSVPing no.
Post # 5
zonabee: I should have mentioned that… It would be a four day cruise, but guests have the option to stay and cruise or disembark after the reception ends.
Hyperventilate: It’s important to my mother that everyone attend, but I wouldn’t mind if only 20 or so people could attend.
Post # 6
Its not rude, but many less may come. I personally wouldn’t attend a wedding on a cruise ship for anyone other than immediate family. I don’t like the idea of spending money on a vacation that doesn’t interest me, especially with 49 other people. On a boat. That being said, some people love cruises!
Post # 7
exactly what everyone else is saying. it’s not rude but people might not want to make the long drive, get a hotel worry about child care etc.
In the end it’s your wedding and if that’s what you love, that’s what you love.
Post # 8
Does the $6,000 pricetag include the four-day cruise for all of you guests? Or is that the cost of the wedding/reception ONLY, and they would be required to pay for travel to your wedding, as well as the price of the cruise itself?
Post # 9
jessjlstar: I don’t think it’s rude at all. That’s not far for people to travel who really care about you. My sister and family reside in Ca, I live in Oklahoma. I flew out for her bachelorette weekend, and then again for her wedding with my 2yr old son in tow, and surprised her with flying in a videographer for her wedding. I am in the camp that thinks people tend to put too much emphasis on what others ‘think’ when it’s our big day, and this is coming from someone who owns a business in the wedding industry :).
My fiancé thought about getting married in Hawaii, and our closest friends and family said that was something they were willing to travel to, but we ultimately decided we didn’t want to honeymoon there so we chose tI have our wedding ceremony in the Maldives and honeymoon there (as it’s our dream honeymoon location). We are both still having bachelor/bachelorette trips, and my friends are flying in to attend it. We are super non traditional and decided on having a “send off celebration” before our departure for friends and family to attend.
Each couple is unique and each wedding should be too. I think it’s lovely that you’re wanting to do a cruise wedding and it shouldn’t be too far for family/friends to travel as it’s a once in your lifetime event! 🙂 excited for you!
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2015 - Dreams Las Mareas - Costa Rica
I love cruises!! I would come… what are the ports? If you have interesting stops… more people would come… or if most of your family is closer to another port… cruise out of that port and then just the 4 of you will have to travel
Post # 11
We had a cruise ship wedding (we picked a 3 day cruise over a weekend so more people could attend, as opposed to a longer cruise). As PP have said, as in any destination wedding, you have to accept going in that not everyone is going to want/be able to go for various reasons.
The majority of my extended family would have had to travel regardless of where we had the wedding, whether it be destination or hometown. We made sure our VIPs (close/immediate family) were able to go before we decided. And we did not have a wedding party of any sort so that no one would feel obligated that they HAD to go to our destination wedding.
We had quite a few people go on the cruise after the wedding, too. It was a lot of fun! (we did a delayed ‘real’ honeymoon about 6 months later, just the two of us)
Post # 12
jessjlstar: As long as this option is affordable and otherwise reasonable for your bridal party and your absolute nearest and dearest (and unfortunately if you do ask them to pay the extraordinary travel expense, I think you will have to be even quieter than is generally expected when it comes to hinting at a shower or bachelorette), and as long as you are prepared for other guests to say no (and to deal with your mother if she is not prepared for people to say no), and as long as you do not hold anyone’s ‘no’ against him/her, which it doesn’t sound like you’re going to do, then you should keep this option under consideration.
I would not personally go because a)I hate cruises and b)I suffer from motion sickness that does not respond readily to most medical treatments, but I’d be happy to take any friends who got married on a cruise out to dinner or another celebration after their wedding/honeymoon. 🙂
Post # 13
Miss Apricot: I wish $6,000 included all of that… It covers the wedding ceremony/reception/photography expenses. I would probably pay for the guests’ hotel rooms, just because it is a cost that is really additional.
JuliaLaneFitness: I’m incredibly jealous of a Maldives wedding AND honeymoon! I bet you and FI are just so excited! But I am glad to hear that you have done the travel thing for a wedidng. I am with you–9 hours doesn’t sound bad to me! But my mother made it seem like 9 hours was a death sentence. And I’m an Oklahoma girl, too! 🙂
bkprettygirl: It’s just a short, 4-day cruise to Cozumel. I would rather do a really short cruise because it’s more economical for those who are actually staying for the cruise. But NO ONE lives close to a port. EVERYONE in my family and his family live in OK.
emstar168: That’s exactly why I want to do a shorter cruise, though 4-day cruises are the shortest they offer from TX. But I’m not in your situation… Literally 6 people would have to travel to a wedding in my hometown.
MarriedToMyWork: That is a good idea to ask my “VIPs” if they’d be able to attend… Some of my family is very close, so I’d be kind of let down if certain family members couldn’t attend.