- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
My parents got divorced in 2008, and since then, the terms they have been on have gotten worse and worse. My terms with my father have not always been wonderful in the divorce process, and now all of those feelings are coming back. It would be a lie if I said I didn’t take sides in the divorce, but I think it was justified because he didn’t just divorce my mother, he divorced our whole family.
We decided on a date last night, and this morning my dad and I were chatting on facebook and he offered to do somethings, including haul down music gear and have my step brother do the DJ stuff (he works for a company), to save money. and my stepmom is a makeup artist, so that would save money there too. Since he is not financially doing well, he intended to save me money in lieu of it. Which was great.
Until I told my mom, and she said, we need to chat about this, he is in a big mess. Basically, they both claimed my sister for their tax returns and so theres a huge nightmare there with the IRS, and he doesn’t have the money he offered to pay for my dress, and he filed bankruptcy.
I already had known he didn’t have a lot of money, and I also already knew that he doesn’t keep up with his child support and owes a ton of money to her.
Relations between everyone had been rocky, but I also found out that my stepmom is a monster to my mother, so much so that she is in therapy for it.
Any way you slice it, there really isn’t two sides to this story. My mom said she would rather pay for whatever I need than to have to deal with those people.
She ended her email like this:
I will talk to him today. Don’t worry about it.
Sorry that it’s like this…This day will be about you and all the people you love. They are all welcome and will be treated with dignity and respect.
Love you tremendously, and I ‘m so sorry.
My mama is a saint. I just didn’t know I was going to have to deal with all these feelings again…