(Closed) Crying at work, ugh- am I a "starter girlfriend"?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Wow, what a rude thing to say. If it helps, me and my Fiance got engaged after a little over 6 years, and by the time the wedding rolls around it will have been 8 years of us dating. There’s nothing wrong with being together for a long time before getting married, I personally think it’s a better idea.

Post # 18
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@Laurenplusalex  That’s exactly it – as much as you love someone, you still have to be practical about life. There is not much you can do without money nowadays :-

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You sound like me and my SO. I personally think that being able to talk about getting married and having kids now, before your engaged, is a good thing. I think it makes you two stronger as a couple because you are wanting to go in the same direction and can talk about things freely together. I think that’s very good and I don’t think he’s stringing you a long.

Post # 20
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There is no way of knowing. He could turn 28 and decide he isn’t ready yet and would like to wait longer.  A lot can happy over the course of a few years.  Taking risks are part of life and love.  As long as you are happy in your relationship and with your partner, that’s all that really matters.

 

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Lol, don’t go back to that other wedding board (was is the other wedding site??), they obviously are just trying to make you doubt your relationship. He has made his intentions very clear and you have a plan- I’m sure he has the same idea.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee

@oldlookingyoungster  He has told his family he’s going to marry me

… and that is all you need to know. Men don’t just casually tell their families things like that unless they’re serious. I don’t see why you should be concerned.

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@oldlookingyoungster Be careful with stuff like that. You can be the one to put ideas and doubts in his head, and if he is already getting in trouble for something, he might as well do it. It is so important not to take your own insecurities out on your partner, especially because he wasn’t even involved in the situation. I also believe in self-fulfilling prophecies – if you believe it’s going to happen and start acting like it will, then you are going to get what you asked for :- 

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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@MrsPanda99  yeah. He has great savings, and just got a great job, but we need time. I’m going back to school, so I can’t contribute as much financially for a while. Provided the job works out, and it does look good, he will look to move out next year and we’ll start firming up our wedding plans. It’s not as soon as I had hoped, but we need to wait to have the life we want

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

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@oldlookingyoungster  People are stupid. Seriously, ignore them! Its perfectly normal to be dating 5 years and not have a proposal yet for many many reasons. And it sounds like you two are on the right track in your relationship for a proposal and marriage in the near future! So ignore rude comments from those ladies and be excited about what teh future has in store for u and your bf.

Post # 31
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

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@oldlookingyoungster  ah, okay. Many members come here after they are dissatisfied with the knot haha

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