(Closed) Crying during vows

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 17
7641 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Bubblesmcgee:  Don’t hold back. They are tears of joy! It’s a good thing 🙂

And just for you…enter ugly crying face….

…all becuase my husband sang a surprise song for me.

During the actual vows:

My face was all nice and red from crying during my vows, and DH, although eyes closed in this pic, was very shakey and had tears in his eyes.

Two things to remember:

1) No one is going to care…actually, they might think it is very sweet.

2) If it is about pictures, you will look authentic and real in the few that are taken during your cry fest.

Post # 18
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Bubblesmcgee:  I am the same as you – a huge, ridiculous crier. I cry at everything. My husband is the opposite. But at our wedding? Yeah, he sobbed his way through his vows and I barely shed a tear. I just had this huge, ridiculous smile on the face throughout the entire day – I was too happy to cry! 


So don’t worry about it. If it happens, it happens and you probably won’t have any control over it. But I am proof that being an emotional person in your regular life doesn’t necessary mean that you’ll lose it at your wedding. Just focus on how HAPPY you are!

Post # 19
1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Bubblesmcgee:  I never used to be emotional…but now…forget it.  I have gotten teary-eyed watching commercials, disney movies..reading cards Fiance gives me… i feel like a hot mess.  I blame my BC, but my mom has been the person that cries at everything since I was little, so maybe it just took a little longer to kick in for me.  I didn’t cry when Fiance proposed…but he really wants us to write our own vows..and i can just see myself starting to bawl just when i THINK about what I would write.  I mean, I get all teary-eyed thinking about marrying him and imagining what its going to be like, when I hear our song on the radio…and randomly when I think about how lucky I am to have him.  I tried to convince him not to make me write and read my own vows…but it didn’t work. LOL Makes me nervous…most people have never seen me cry…so the though of crying in front of everyone (happy tears..but still) makes me cringe lol. It feels like such a raw emotion to share with everyone..not something i like. haha

Post # 20
1845 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I thought i would be a sappy mess during our ceremony, but I wasn’t at all. I had a bit of a moment walking down the aisle, but I didn’t cry. What helped for me, since we wrote our own vows, was to read over Dhs vows several times before hand. This let me get used to them so that it wasn’t the first time hearing them at the “alter”. I also used to cry just hearing the song we used to walk down the aisle to, so I did the same thing..before the wedding I played the song over and over in an attempt to desensitize myself to it. It worked!

Post # 21
13924 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I tear up all the time at other people’s weddings, but didn’t at all at my own.  I just had this odd sense of calm come over me and aside from being a little weak at the knees just before walking down the aisle, I was fine.  It helped that we saw each other before the ceremony, for photos etc. and  we had practiced the whole thing,  including the walk, the vows etc. several times at rehearsal. 

Nothing wrong with a few tears, though!  

Post # 22
311 posts
Helper bee

Oh god I’m SO worried about this. I am not usually very emotional or a crier, but certain things set me off and it seems that my wedding is one of them!

I’m so worried that EVERYTHING (walking with my dad, saying my vows, giving thank you’s ect) will make me crack.  I’m really hoping that my nerves will calm down before the wedding or I’m going to have to drug myself to chill out haha.

Post # 23
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I was worried about crying at my friend’s wedding when I was a bridesmaid.  I had some chemical help, but I didn’t cry! LOL

Post # 24
674 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am SO emotional.

I cried during my sister’s vows, I will without a doubt cry during my own.

I cry just thinking about our first look before the ceremony, walking down the aisle with my dad, and anytime I play the song for our first dance and the father-daughter dance!

I’m going to absolutely lose it all.day.long!

Post # 25
660 posts
Busy bee

We both cried.. 🙂 and laughed!

Post # 26
280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I am a crier, big time! Luckily we aren’t writing/reciting our own vows, just the repeat-after-me ones. I think I will be able to get through it. Other wise I’ll be getting my toby maguire cry face on.

Post # 27
2564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I cry at a lot of things and thought for sure I would lose it when I saw DH  and during the vows, but I honestly jost choked up a little, and let a single tear or two slip out.  I think DH was worse!  Either way, dont worry – it’s all part of the memories of your day. 🙂

Post # 28
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2000


You might not. But I doubt you’ll really mind if you do. I blubbered! And it wasn’t in the least bit anticipated. We didn’t write our vows, we didn’t know the marriage officer or the witnesses personally, it was just us two, we were jet-lagged.

But there is powerful juju in those words, so many of which he’d already proven to me. And… the marriage officer we were randomly assigned just so happened to kick ass. He ad libbed the most beautiful things just based on our occupations listed on our licence and our nationalities. He had flow! Like the most powerful AME preacher. It was an amazing experience.

And because it was in another country, even the standard vows that you repeat were phrased just that little bit different that I was caught off guard and really focused on what I was saying. It is totally surreal when you are actually doing that thing. That moment when you’re making it legal, when the alchemy is performed changing you from partners to spouses. I’ve never felt anything like it before or since. It’s transcendent. And if you cry, not a soul on earth will have any difficulty understanding.

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