(Closed) Crying during vows

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3697 posts
Sugar bee

A trick for keeping tears in check: when you feel them welling up, press your tongue against the roof of your mouth.

No idea why it works, but it does something physiologically (puts pressure on a nerve, maybe?) that helps rein in the tears.

Post # 4
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@KCKnd2:  I need to remember this. I’m such a crier, and it’s an ugly cry, not some pretty shiny cry.

Post # 5
5428 posts
Bee Keeper

I have no suggestions except try very hard to get a good night’s sleep the night before! Many brides and (sometimes grooms) shed tears during the vows because as you all know… “THIS IS IT!” All the stress, the waiting, the anticipation, it’s all here now… so your body just reacts. I am hoping to do a video of our vows, so I don’t want to cry a blubbery mess during it… so I am sleeping in a hotel the night before so I can be relaxed (bubble bath etc…) 

Post # 6
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Honey, I tear up even thinking about it!!!! But some waterproof mascara on and let it out!!! I’m sure even your groom will shead a few 🙂 

Post # 7
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My tip is that I saw my fiance before the ceremony. I think the anxiousness of waiting all day can build up.

Also I practiced reading parts of the ceremony in front of my mom and officiant a couple weeks before the wedding. I knew if I could hold it in there that I would be OK. I sobbed and sobbed when I wrote the ceremony and when I listened to music that we would play at the wedding, but I didn’t cry at the actual ceremony.

Post # 8
925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I cried during my vows. And it was beautiful. I was afraid i sounded like a blubbering fool but we watched the video and it really made the moment so special. Just dont make the ugly cry face, let them flow and smile through them. Don’t be afraid to let your true emotions show!

Post # 9
18 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am sure I’m going to cry, and so will the groom…it’s a second wedding for both of us and the bridesmaids and groomsmen are our children. Definately waterproof makeup. It’s why I decided on a makeup person. With the music, which I picked out and is all highly emotional, I keep listening to it in my car over and over until I’m sick of it! I’m hoping that works.

I will try the tongue on the roof of the mouth trick. Actually, I’d try anything at this point!

My daughter says that the only good weddings are the ones that the bride cries at though, and she’s probably right.

Post # 10
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My husband’s groomsmen all started making faces at me when it looked like I was about to start crying during the vows and it worked! I didn’t even ask them to do that beforehand, apparently they all got together and decided to be prepared!

Post # 11
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I didn’t cry! 

I was so sure I would – I had been crying every time I even thought about it. 

But… when we got up there and started our vows we both teared up a little, but that was it.  We were all smiles.  🙂

Post # 12
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

Waterproof makeup. (Coming from the bride who SOBBED hysterically through her vows.)

@misspeanut:  Actually this is a great idea. Our best man lost the rings in his pocket during the ceremony. Made everyone laugh. (Except me. I laugh/cried. It was awkward. :D)

Post # 13
1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I cried during my vows, as did my husband. I wasn’t a blubbering mess and neither was he. It was more of just some tears being shed and we were smiling through it all. It was such a special moment and my husband tends to hide his emotions os it was just really beautiful. I had my makeup done and went with ALL water proof and t held up all day and night.

Post # 15
693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I sobbed, lol… I felt bad that I made all of my guests cry when I cried, and I’m a little embarrassed to watch the video when it comes in. But it’s all good. The emotions came out, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Smile

Post # 16
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i worry about this. often people say its beautiful to see a bride cry…you know, wobbling lip and a single glistening tear that sparkles during photos and touches the heart of all who see it!

well. theyve obviously never seen me cry. red face, red eyes, snotty nose and blotchy chest.  i genuinely think if i dont manage to hold it in, ill look terrible in photos. fact of life – some people can cry and still look pretty, others like me look a wreck!

ill practice the pressing tongue against roof of mouth!

its also why, as much as i love pachelbel canon in D, im not having that music anywhere near my wedding – it gets me every time, even in my house!!

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