(Closed) crying for all the wrong reasons

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I am sooo with you but I can’t stop watching the show! I wish he could help me and my fiance, because I am sure he would change a few things! He might disapprove of my DIY place cards that I bought at Michael’s.  I would love Calligraphy but they will be printed at home.  We haven’t planned too much so I don’t know what else he would disapprove of.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I don’t know. I do think that “My Fair Wedding” in particular exists solely to make brides feel worse. I was never uncomfortable with the way that David swoops in, tells the bride that all her ideas and dreams are wrong (so what if she wants fake flowers? They look fine!), and then the brides are supposed to cry and be grateful that he “saved” them from their supposed tackiness. The idea of the show is fun, but at its worst, it just seems like a form of class judgement disguised as a “friendly makeover.”

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I hear you ):

Post # 7
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Busy bee

i watch the show but i don’t love the idea of it.  many of the brides are doing things b/c of budget and i kind of feel like DT is saying they are “tacky” and i don’t like judging people this way.

but magenta – you should watch the episode of this show with Mandy, the marilyn monroe impersonator.  she is a very non traditional bride and i bet you would feel really good actually after seeing that episode – her style reminds me of yours from what i can see!

and DT would probably hate a lot of things about my wedding – there are educational video games at my venue – which is very elegant but it is a museum and the games are on the way to the space where we have dancing and my partner who has seen this show actually said “you know david tutera would not like this!” but i think it is fun!

i personally don’t like some of the really plastic looking flowers and some of the other elements the brides on this show want to use  –  but if you had them in your wedding would I notice or care?  not in the slightest.  i would just be happy for you.

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I dont know….I love my Detootie!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Dude, he has terrible hair. I couldn’t take him seriously.

And, no offense to people who are crazy about Disney, but he does style stuff for them? (I had to go look him up) I’m sorry, I love Disney movies and all, but for a wedding? Gag me with a spoon. I would MUCH rather attend and would heap a lot more praise on a personal, DIY wedding, even if I could see the rough edges, than some expensive, wannabe princess event. That is just my opinion, and clearly people love that sort of thing. I honestly don’t think I could survive that sort of event I’d be trying so hard not to die laughing.

Sorry I’m on a little soapbox now, but I have never in my life disliked a budget wedding filled with love and effort. The only weddings I’ve rolled my eyes at are the few big budget weddings I’ve gone to. One was gorgeous and understated and elegant. Nothing over the top. But I’ve gone to two “show-case” weddings, and sometimes it is hard not to laugh at how seriously everyone is taking it.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t like Mr Tutera. When a bride works so hard on something that is super personal, just bc it doesn’t follow conventional standards, doesnt mean it should be nixed.

On the other hand…sometimes maybe you just need a stranger to tell you that maybe you should take your creativity in a different direction. I saw an episode where the bride was so obessed with candy, she wanted to make her whole bouquet with candy and it was a little tacky…

Then again, I’m pretty sure they find the wacky ones to make the show….

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i love this show – but there is no WAY i would want him to change things…first off i absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE everything about my wedding – my venue, my dress, my shoes, my bm dresses, my colors, alllll of my DIY stuff – i’d go insane if someone came in and changed everything i’ve worked hard was changed.

still – entertaining show.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I had that show on for a while earlier, and I have to say not only do I not like it, but it’s kind of boring.  It really is all about making brides feel bad about themselves, from a guy who is all about self-promotion (like when he made the biggest deal about a bride “getting” to try on his new line of dresses, barf).  I turned it off after he made the biggest deal about bridesmaids changing to flip-flops during the reception; um, why don’t you try wearing ugly, stiff shoes for 10 hours straight?  He then made the bride and bridesmaids pinky-swear they would wear their heels for the entire wedding and reception, because clearly it would be a complete catastrophe if their feet were comfortable enough to enjoy dancing.  Get over yourself, dude.  Don’t feel bad magenta; if he wasn’t so good at making women feel like their ideas aren’t good enough, he wouldn’t have a job.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

I think the concept of someone swooping in and changing everything seems a little mean, but keep in mind that these women apply to be on the show because they want a more elaborate wedding than they can afford or conceptually plan.  They’ve made most of their plans already, because he doesn’t come in until 3 weeks before, and they might not be chosen for the show, so of course there’s a lot to be changed.  However, if the end result is that these women have beautiful weddings that make them happy, I just don’t think it’s that big of a deal how it happens. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Word. Completely agree on the class judgment factor, and remember posting about it before in response to a blog posting. The only upside is that many of these brides also were facing having to do everything for themselves on their wedding day (including cook, hair, makeup) and now that is all taken care of!

Personally, I would love a show that is kind of a take on Extreme Home Makeover–you know, someone with a compelling story gets an amazing wedding, perhaps designed by Mr. Tutera? Why do so many of the Wedding shows these days have to have some implicit judgment about $$$ spent? Ugh.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

These people know EXACTLY what they are signing up for. They want the big-budget wedding and the David Tutera treatment or they wouldn’t apply for the show in the first place! That being said, the show is BO-ring.

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