(Closed) Crying Groom. Will he or won’t he? Will you?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I personally would like to see my groom shed a tear on our wedding day. It would show me how much this means to him and that he’s not afraid of his emotions. 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Haha i disagree but I think that’s kind of hilarious that you feel that way. I would agree with you that I’m not big on crying men, but I feel like wedding day, births of children, and (god forbid) deaths of loved ones are the three times in life when I don’t mind seeing a man cry. Now blubbering would be bad. But that eyes-welling-trying-to-not-show-it thing on a groom is kind of endearing in my opinion. 

 

ETA: for what its worth, my groom did not cry on our wedding day. I teased him about it saying “how come you didn’t cry like other guys do?” and he just said “i don’t cry.” lol (which I have to admit in 5 years has so far been true)

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It doesn’t matter how I feel, he’s not crying and I know that. Not that he doesn’t care, it’s just he’s got such a strong man personality that if he even felt emotional he’d swallow it. It’d be nice to see a tear, or hell even teary eyes but I love him anyway.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015

It was funny because right before walking, I got an attack of emotion and cried. I don’t think no one except my brother who was walking me saw me. My now husband said he cried the moment he saw me. I think this shows how much this means to him, and I can’t wait to see the video.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think its super sweet! His best man was bawling at our wedding which was funny/sweet to me! And my man did shed a couple tears as I walked down the isle….I looooved it! I cried hysterically when he proposed so I was really worried about the wedding day. I managed to hold it together (must have been all the makeup worry). But personally, I think it is soooo sweet when the groom sheds a tear.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

The pictures of when a groom sees his bride for the first time and cries are too cute! When I was dress shopping my Future Mother-In-Law said the goal was to make him cry when he sees me! He won’t, but it was funny for her to say. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t get it.  It gives you joy because you think their wussies? (Please correct my reading if it’s wrong, but that’s what your sentence says).

 

I don’t think I have any feelings on whether a groom cries or not.  The sentiment of “manning up” because a guy is “tearing up” is damaging IMO. Perpetuating a cycle of stupid stereotypes. I would never tell a guy to “man up” because they were getting misty eyed (or even if they ugly cried).  It’s a sexist lens to wear.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I think its sweet. Men are told to be strong and man up, but when they let their guard down and show emotion, it shows their human side. 🙂

My friends husband is always so tough and never shows any emotion. But on their wedding day he actually shed a tear when he saw her. It was sweet and proved he wasn’t a robot. lol

Getting choked up on an emotional day is ok in my eyes!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I didn’t think my Darling Husband would cry when I walked down the aisle because we had done a first look and drove around the city for about 3 hours taking pictures, kissed goodbye and 10 minutes later the ceremony started. But when i started walking down that aisle, he teared up like I’ve never seen before. I was so taken aback I started to cry too, but got myself together before I finished my walk. Thankfully of course we were both dry eyed during the vows and got through it just fine. 

You can plan all you want for how you’ll act and feel on your wedding day, but sometimes emotions just take over. It’s an extremely emotional experience to get married. Something you definitely can’t invision completely until it actually happens. It’s actually nice now to look back and remember how emotional we were during that moment, instead of just going through the motions.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@LaviniaRose2013: By entertaining, you mean you find it cute? What about a grown woman crying?  If a bride cries?  Would you tell her to woman up?

I don’t think I really get your feelings.   And I don’t think you intend for your post to sound like you mean for it to be endearing even though it still comes off as kind of sexist and condescending. 

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m pretty sure we will both ctear uo…we’re cheeseballs lol. Wouldn’t bother me if the Fiance did, as long as it doesn’t get out of hand! 

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