Post # 1
In an effort to revoke all negative comments, I am editing my original post.
What are your thoughts on emotional or crying grooms? Did your groom cry on your wedding day? What do you think your groom will do? What did you do? What do you think you’ll do?
Keep in mind please, everyone is different and there is NO right or wrong answer. Please keep all replies positive and uplifting. No attacking others for having differing opinions, no matter how much you may disagree!
My personal opinion is that boo-hooing grooms are funny. Nothing mean or negative, just my thoughts. I believe Mr. LR will keep his emotions in check during that time (aka “man’ing up”) because that is who he is. I believe that I will *try* to do the same because I don’t want to mess up my makeup (I’m an ugly crier). It would be my dream for Mr. LR to look like James Marsden from 27 Dresses when Katherine Heigl walks down the aisle *swoon!*, but I know some women’s dream is for their man to get choked up and shed a tear! Tell us all about your dream and what you think will happen!
Post # 3
I personally would like to see my groom shed a tear on our wedding day. It would show me how much this means to him and that he’s not afraid of his emotions.
Post # 4
Haha i disagree but I think that’s kind of hilarious that you feel that way. I would agree with you that I’m not big on crying men, but I feel like wedding day, births of children, and (god forbid) deaths of loved ones are the three times in life when I don’t mind seeing a man cry. Now blubbering would be bad. But that eyes-welling-trying-to-not-show-it thing on a groom is kind of endearing in my opinion.
ETA: for what its worth, my groom did not cry on our wedding day. I teased him about it saying “how come you didn’t cry like other guys do?” and he just said “i don’t cry.” lol (which I have to admit in 5 years has so far been true)
Post # 5
It doesn’t matter how I feel, he’s not crying and I know that. Not that he doesn’t care, it’s just he’s got such a strong man personality that if he even felt emotional he’d swallow it. It’d be nice to see a tear, or hell even teary eyes but I love him anyway.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015
It was funny because right before walking, I got an attack of emotion and cried. I don’t think no one except my brother who was walking me saw me. My now husband said he cried the moment he saw me. I think this shows how much this means to him, and I can’t wait to see the video.
Post # 7
I think its super sweet! His best man was bawling at our wedding which was funny/sweet to me! And my man did shed a couple tears as I walked down the isle….I looooved it! I cried hysterically when he proposed so I was really worried about the wedding day. I managed to hold it together (must have been all the makeup worry). But personally, I think it is soooo sweet when the groom sheds a tear.
Post # 8
@Bichon Frise: I really hope he does, too! Like I said everyone is different, and there’s no right or wrong way. My dream is that he’ll react like James Marsden did on 27 Dresses. Could you imagine walking down the aisle to THAT electric smile?! Gets me giddy every time! 🙂 I would probably start crying and mess up my make up haha. Oh ugly cry!
Post # 9
The pictures of when a groom sees his bride for the first time and cries are too cute! When I was dress shopping my Future Mother-In-Law said the goal was to make him cry when he sees me! He won’t, but it was funny for her to say.
Post # 10
I don’t get it. It gives you joy because you think their wussies? (Please correct my reading if it’s wrong, but that’s what your sentence says).
I don’t think I have any feelings on whether a groom cries or not. The sentiment of “manning up” because a guy is “tearing up” is damaging IMO. Perpetuating a cycle of stupid stereotypes. I would never tell a guy to “man up” because they were getting misty eyed (or even if they ugly cried). It’s a sexist lens to wear.
Post # 11
@CorgiTales: haha I just can’t help but think they’re hilarious. I mean, I know they’re sweet and loving and all that good stuff, but I also know that I couldn’t deal with that on my wedding day. I’d start laughing, crying, or both. I like the electric smile idea. Haha and so true! In 4 years, I have yet to see Mr. LR cry.
Post # 12
I think its sweet. Men are told to be strong and man up, but when they let their guard down and show emotion, it shows their human side. 🙂
My friends husband is always so tough and never shows any emotion. But on their wedding day he actually shed a tear when he saw her. It was sweet and proved he wasn’t a robot. lol
Getting choked up on an emotional day is ok in my eyes!
Post # 13
I didn’t think my Darling Husband would cry when I walked down the aisle because we had done a first look and drove around the city for about 3 hours taking pictures, kissed goodbye and 10 minutes later the ceremony started. But when i started walking down that aisle, he teared up like I’ve never seen before. I was so taken aback I started to cry too, but got myself together before I finished my walk. Thankfully of course we were both dry eyed during the vows and got through it just fine.
You can plan all you want for how you’ll act and feel on your wedding day, but sometimes emotions just take over. It’s an extremely emotional experience to get married. Something you definitely can’t invision completely until it actually happens. It’s actually nice now to look back and remember how emotional we were during that moment, instead of just going through the motions.
Post # 14
@mrsbruff2b: No, it gives me joy for a multitude of reason, but I truly find them entertaining. I have an odd sense of humor, I’ll admit it. Of course, I find them sweet and precious, but I’m also the type of person who finds it entertaining to see grown men cry on their wedding day. It’s just not something one sees on any given day. As for the whole man up or shut up thing, it was a joke (odd sense of humor), but it did diffuse the tension for my friend’s husband! He was still teared up, but he was so happy and smiling. The pictures are to die for!
Post # 15
@LaviniaRose2013: By entertaining, you mean you find it cute? What about a grown woman crying? If a bride cries? Would you tell her to woman up?
I don’t think I really get your feelings. And I don’t think you intend for your post to sound like you mean for it to be endearing even though it still comes off as kind of sexist and condescending.
Post # 16
I’m pretty sure we will both ctear uo…we’re cheeseballs lol. Wouldn’t bother me if the Fiance did, as long as it doesn’t get out of hand!