(Closed) Crying hangover

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

When I was reading this post, I kept thinking about the scene in “Father of the Bride” where Steve Martin comes up with ridiculous ideas for his daughter’s wedding after her suggesting they get married at her parent’s home (i.e. that it could be a country BBQ theme). Don’t let this get to you. Maybe Mr. Moose was just throwing out ideas at random? Guys have a habit of downplaying things, especially when it comes to the whole wedding scenario. I think it’s probably a good bet to not actually discuss the wedding planning details until it’s time to do so. Hope you feel better soon!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

honestly I don’t think he was serious. Was he just being light-hearted and playful? My Boyfriend or Best Friend has said similar things about ridiculous wedding themes and things… star wars and harry potter themes for example haha I just laugh (I told him he can have a starwars groom’s cake). When the time comes just make sure he’s not in charge πŸ˜› chance are, when it happens, he’ll just want to make you happy. I doubt he’ll really make his grandmother sit outside in the rain! 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

honestly I don’t think he was serious. Was he just being light-hearted and playful? My Boyfriend or Best Friend has said similar things about ridiculous wedding themes and things… star wars and harry potter themes for example haha I just laugh (I told him he can have a starwars groom’s cake). When the time comes just make sure he’s not in charge πŸ˜› chance are, when it happens, he’ll just want to make you happy. I doubt he’ll really make his grandmother sit outside in the rain! 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m incredibly worried that Boyfriend or Best Friend and I will be dating a loooong time before we get engaged (we’ve been dating for a year and a half). He made the joke that we’ll be really old (like walker and wheelchair old) when we get married. He even patomimed going down the aisle with a walker to the “Here Comes the Bride” theme. I told him he was not funny.

He was probably just throwing ideas out so don’t worry about it. You’re just probably super sensitive because you’re waiting. That makes us all a little on edge. Sometimes, they say or do weird stuff about weddings to try to get us to lighten up. So, I didn’t get really mad; I just said it wasn’t funny.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

honestly I don’t think he was serious. Was he just being light-hearted and playful? My Boyfriend or Best Friend has said similar things about ridiculous wedding themes and things… star wars and harry potter themes for example haha I just laugh (I told him he can have a starwars groom’s cake). When the time comes just make sure he’s not in charge πŸ˜› chance are, when it happens, he’ll just want to make you happy. I doubt he’ll really make his grandmother sit outside in the rain! 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

honestly I don’t think he was serious. Was he just being light-hearted and playful? My Boyfriend or Best Friend has said similar things about ridiculous wedding themes and things… star wars and harry potter themes for example haha I just laugh (I told him he can have a starwars groom’s cake). When the time comes just make sure he’s not in charge πŸ˜› chance are, when it happens, he’ll just want to make you happy. I doubt he’ll really make his grandmother sit outside in the rain! 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@moosey:Oh no worries. He can say, “let’s have a reception outside rain or shien, who cares if people’s hair gets wet!” Well, THOSE people WILL care and they will leave if there is no shelter. My Fiance was throwing weird ideas at me too and I just kind shrugged them off because there is no way that some of those are going to happen. We’ve always wanted a fall wedding and then he decided why not fall/halloween themed? I’m thinking OMG bright orange pumpkins and plastic spiders everywhere!!!!!!!!! But no, he knows that this is a wedding and we have to keep it a bit formal and classy πŸ˜€ No need to fret.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

WTF! DP :-/

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

A very cold washcloth is my suggestion for the crying face – maybe even ice. Get down the swollenness of it.

As for the wedding…it sounds like he just wants something fun, I’m sure you two can come up with a great compromise when the time comes. Maybe an outdoor tented wedding? Or what about a bright fun theme, maybe even carnival-ish? That was almost my theme, soooo fun!

Real Wedding: Doug + Paige’s Fun Carnival Wedding

http://www.stylemepretty.com/2010/07/15/carnival-themed-wedding-inspiration/

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My SO is rarely serious when discussing wedding plans…every now and then he chimes in with a truly fabulous idea, but generally its all just absurd, top hats, powder blue tuxes?? i mean come on babe! Anyway it really bothered me at first, but I think it’s just his way of dealing with the stress of it all.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

I’d say simultaniously plan a Bachelor or Couples party with the wacky elements.  I love the idea of a crazy party, but I’d rather just my friends be there (and lots of drinks), not my grandma.  That way both you and he can get jazzed about the silly party and at the same time plan the wedding that is both fun and appropriate.  πŸ™‚

I know how it feels to lose that sun-shiny hope around wedding planning.  My MR might back down from the engagement/marriage thing altogether 8 months after giving the go-ahead and buying the ring.  :-/

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Take two metal spoons and stick them in the fridge for a few minutes.  Then lightly press them over your eyes.  Puffy eyes gone!

Don’t worry about the FI’s random ideas…he’ll probably forget them tomorrow.  What you could do is wait until you’re both recovered from the fight, sit down, and make a list of things that are genuinely important to you both as you plan/budget the wedding.  You might find that his “real” list is very reasonable.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

aww, I know as a waiting bee we could get overly sensitive about any marriage wedding related topic… I know where you’re coming from but really he was just being silly… Don’t worry.

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