(Closed) Crying in public

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
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481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Southampton, UK

I cry in public a lot. I’ve always been emotional and now I’ve got fibromyalgia so I’m even MORE emotional. Once it starts I cannot control it. And I can’t hide it; my whole face and my eyes turn red. It can be embarrassing.

Post # 19
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I cry a lot… it’s my reaction to any strong emotions, when I’m sad, happy, scared, angry. I use to be pretty embarrassed, but I  care less now, I try so hard to control it without success, I’m wired like that! Haha…

Post # 20
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528 posts
Busy bee

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sensoda :  We all go through stressful situations, so don’t feel bad if you can’t help crying publicly sometimes. And there’s no need to be embarrassed. I’m sure the man could sympathize with you on the inside!

I’ve had a similar problem at the immigration office of the country I’m currently in. I was trying to get a visa issue sorted, but I still can’t speak the language well enough for important matters like this. Apparently I had brought the incorrect form. To top it off, I hadn’t brought enough cash for all the fees, and they wouldn’t accept credit cards. Plus, the next appointment was weeks away, and my visa could have expired. To say I was overwhelmed would be an understatement.

I felt like crying. My voice was cracking. (I still don’t know how I got my sentences out. At some point, I just gave up and started explaining in English.) And I tried really hard not to let all the tears welled up in my eyes to spill out.

The officer looked really stern and annoyed, and his tone sounded harsh too. But I think he was a good guy despite his serious demeanor. In the end, he took care of my paperwork (despite having the wrong form), wrote down what other things I needed, and told me I could come back to him the next day without making any appointments.

I hate crying in public too. But sometimes we reach a breaking point because of some stress or something. So don’t beat yourself up over it. 🙂

Post # 21
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7887 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

 I’m sorry it’s been so stressful. We all have stress in our lives, and a lot of times I think it’s better to let it out rather than keep it bottled up. We all cry. It’s ok. 

Post # 25
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11376 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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sensoda :  I hardly ever cry, I wish I could more easily. That said, while traveling in France alone and trying to purchase the right ticket for a train, my French language skills (not the greatest to begin with) totally failed me and the woman refused to sell me a ticket. 

I broke down crying in front of everyone. Mortified. 

it can be so frustrating to deal with red tape normally –  add in a foreign language and bring on the tears. 

Post # 26
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2170 posts
Buzzing bee

I am an emotional person and also tend to cry when I get frustrated/upset/etc. I can’t help it. Rarely has anyone ever asked me if I’m ok (in the US by the way) and I get even more upset about it. 

I find it extremely upsetting that people use crying as a manipulative tactic to get what they want. No wonder I am shown no sympathy when other people can turn it on and off to get what they want. Fucking hate manipulators. 

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