(Closed) Cuddling….

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Maybe you could cuddle him? You be the big spoon and he can be the little spoon =)

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Next time you two cuddle, could you make a comment like “oh, your arm is totally smothering my neck, could you put it here?” and then move it to your waist or hip or something? (Or, obviously whatever body part you’re feeling smothered by?) Or even just a, oh, I am so warm, could you move this here?

That’s kind of what I’d do I think. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

=( sometimes I just grab my FI’s arms and put them where I want them and hold on… lol I usually wrap myself up in his arms like a blanket then say thanks for the cuddles tehe

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

@MsPanda: we haven’t had an argument about it, but I have hurt FIs feeling. He is a big man and always burning up hot. It is hard to enjoy cuddling when you’re basically being squished by a big hot gorilla haha. I love the man dearly but he doesn’t realize his size! He loves to cuddle and I shy away from it sometimes so I have made an effort lately to snuggle up behind him in bed and be the “big spoon”. He really enjoys this and it seems like a good compromise. I lay my head on his shoulder during movies too and he loves that.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m sure he’ll understand if you tell him that he’s being uncomfortable and maybe indicate how he can hold you so you don’t feel smothered. 

Or I second putting his hands where you want him to hold them. 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

When my Fiance is actually home for the night, (he works night shift as a dump truck when it’s not raining)I always try to get some cuddles before he passes out. I call it canoodling hihi. So I usually canoodle with him for like 5-10 minutes then kiss goodnight and then I turn over to my side and he turns over to his side.

When he canoodles me and his arms hurt me, (he has some very heavy arms and I’m very tiny), I usually move them where it doesn’t hurt me, he has never complained.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I usually move Darling Husband over if he over cuddles or puts too much pressure on my stomach. A gentle nudge usually gets the message across- or if I’m awake enough, actually tell him what’s wrong.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I lol’ed at the gorilla comment. Understood 🙂

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@MsPanda: When I’m really tired the elbows come out (I have pointy elbows 😀 ) or I make unintelligible grumbly noises until he moves, I figure if the same noises work in teaching the ponies that they are doing something wrong they’ll work on a husband. I’ve also had complete conversations with him while he was asleep so I completely understanding the not understanding thing- so frustrating!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Put a pillow between you!

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