(Closed) Cultural names

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Should we give our future kids names from partner's culture?

    Yes-first and middle

    No-neither first or middle

    Unusual first name and common middle name

    Other

  • Post # 17
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    201 posts
    Helper bee

    I know when it comes picking out names for any little ones I know my SO would like to go towards his hispanic heritage but I don’t really know how I’ll feel especially depending on where we get relocated with his work. The one thing I  considering when it comes time is the Supreme Court Justice test if the name sounds like it could be a justice then you safe to go. 

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’ve hated having an unusual name my whole life. I hate that no one can pronounce it and I have to spell it out to people all the time. I would change it, but feel i’m past the point in my life to take on a new identity. Baised on my personal experinces I would give them a common first name and ethnic middle name. Or try to find one that is similar to a common name. But that is only based on my personal experience and I can’t speak for everyone.

    Post # 19
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I don’t want my children to be common, I want them to be them. And that will include whatever names we end up picking. “Common” will not even be something that I’ll consider at the time.

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I have an Indian first name  (my dad is from India) and a very American middle name (my mom is American). My name isn’t ridiculous sounding but it’s unusual and people never, ever pronounce it correctly when they read it. 

    To answer your question, I hated it when I was younger because I was constantly correcting people. Some people like standing out and being different or unique. I always found myself just trying to blend in with others because I was already different (I look “American” but my name obviously says otherwise). 

    Now that I’m older I have a very different take on it. I love my name and love the significance of it. It opens up conversations with people that never would have taken place if I had a common name.

    My suggestion would be that if you’re going to go with something different, make sure that the pronunciation is obvious. And don’t count on your kid being able to easily just go by their middle name if they decide they don’t like it. Once they’re old enough to make that decision, they’ll probably already have established themselves with friends, school, community, etc. who will be less likely to just ease into the name change. Also with an unusual name be prepared to receive a lot of stupid comments from people who, for the most part, are just trying to be friendly. 

     

     

    Post # 22
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My kids names are:

     

    DD – Thia Kyomi (“normal” and an unusual)

     

    DS – Koi Emmanual (unsusal and “normal)

     

    My daughter goes by both names ie. I call her by both names and friends call her by both names. I too use 2 of my 3 middle names. SO uses the same 2 as well. 

     

    You can use it however you wish. I believe the qualifications would outshine the name. After all, if the name is prevebting them from having a job, they can change it. BUt please don’t name your child Abcde (Ah-bee-see-dee) lol

     

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @worldtraveler:  To be fair, having an unusual last name isn’t the same as an unusual first name. When you first meet people they aren’t interesed in your last name just your first. This is basically the same conversation I’ve had with 75% of people I’ve met my entire life. Bars/parties/networking ect.

    Me: Hi, I’m Treeline.

    Them: Waa…What was that?

    Me: Treeline.

    Them: Oh that’s unusual. What does that mean/what nationality is that.

    Rinse and repeat until I hit the bucket. Even then someone at my funeral will be the SO of another guest and say, that’s an unusual name what does that mean?

    AAAGGGHH! Just wish I was Sarah or Isabelle so I could never have this conversation again. Sometimes when I don’t care if I ever meet the person again I give them a normal name just to avoid the conversation.. especially drunk dudes.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @monkeyinasuit:  If someone made a comment about my ethnic name I’d tell them to GTFO of my corner office. 

    ^ Amazing.

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    @worldtraveler:  Naming your child based on your culture is awesome. Yes, pronunciation can sometimes be a challenge, but people will figure it out. It is a whole world apart from slamming a bunch of letters together and calling it “unique”.

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Depends. If you raise your kids to be strong and proud, they can go through life with just about any name. I have an unusual first name, and two middle names. I get by. 🙂

    Post # 26
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Treeline:  Not to thread-jack, but have you seen the comedy bit by Dane Cook about meeting a girl named Treeline? I always think of it when I see your avatar and wonder if you’ve heard it? It was from a few years back…like 4-5 yrs.

    Post # 27
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    Sugar bee

    @worldtraveler:  I choose to pick names that were recognizable and easy to say in both English and Spanish. I wanted my kids to have normal American names, but I didn’t want their grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins (completely non-English speaking) in Guatemala to think they had weird names or be unable to pronounce them. I run into this a lot with my oldest son’s name (he is 100% American though). Which is Darin. There is no Darin in Spanish and they always ask me how “Darien” or “Dario” is doing. None of them can say Darin. Moving on to FI’s name…it’s Jairo. Jairo is massacred in English almost any time anyone attempts to pronounce it. I didn’t want my kids to be dealing with that in school. So for my kids I went with Cristian and Nicolas. Easily spoken in either language. However, they both have completely Spanish middle names. I have run into problems though even with these names, as I spelled them the way they would be spelled in Spanish (so as to match their last name) and they are always misspelled. And my oldest, Darin (I read somewhere that Darin was the original spelling of the name) is also always misspelled. I wish I had picked completely “normal” names and spellings.

    Post # 28
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    Sugar bee

    @Treeline:  Me too. My name is not soooo unusual, but I often get called by other slightly similar names, or names that aren’t even names. My name is Adrienne. If I only had a nickel for every time I got called Andrea (which I freaking HATE), Amanda or the dreaded non-name Andrienne! If it’s this bad for a name that is not even of another ethnicity (and it drives me batty) I can’t imagine having a truly “different” name. :-/  

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @worldtraveler:  I have an ‘unusual’ / hard to pronounce cultural name, actually growing up in a city of over 100,000 people, I can tell you that I am the only person that had my name growing up in that city! We were the only ones with our last name in the phone book, and some of my good friends still don’t have the pronounciaction of my last name quite right.

    I thought I was going to change my last name to my husbands right away when we got married, actually (we’ve been together 7 years) I started using his last name before we married, because it is so much easier to pronounce than mine. But now I’m not so sure I want to change mine completely even if it is so hard to pronounce! 

    It was tough growing up with the weird name i won’t lie. I had teachers for a whole year that still couldn’t get my name quite right by the lat day of school, actually, My now husband even mispronounced my name for a week when we first met LOL

    Only once has a prospective employer asked me “how much English I know”, which is rude yes, considering I was born and raised in Canada, but aside from that, I haven’t had too many hardships in the realm of jobs and employment opportunities.

    I don’t think we should eliminate cultural name because these names are different or hard to pronounce. I guess it depends where you are, but Canada for the most part is pretty mixed, and you’ll always  have newgenerations that come from other countries, as well as people like myself who are first generation Canadians who have kids that have a differing cultural heritage.

    As it stands the potential baby names my husby and I have picked are actually from neither of our cultures (my parents are east Indian and he’s French canadian) just because they feel right to us. They feel like the names OUR kids should have, and honestly our boy name is a little out there, but I love it, and I will be so happy if I have a son one day to give it to.

    They’re your kids, name them what you want. I don’t know why we are all so quick to judge, we all have our own personal reasons for naming our children what we name them, I never understood what the big debate over what other people name their kids is about. Maybe it’s because I was the brown girl, with the weird name, I don’t know lol

    Honestly I think it’s sweet you’d like to name your kids for your SO’s culture! 

    *Just because I don’t really care if you know my actual name ; it’s Archana Srivastava, and no I dont have a middle name, no other name to fall back on but my own!

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I like ethnic names and think they’re in a different league to the ‘yooneek’ and ‘kreaytiv’ names.  Actually, according to the author of Freakonomics, even something like a predominantly african american name associated with lower socio-economic status (La-a, for example) doesn’t actually impact life outcomes. Here’s the article he published: http://www.nber.org/papers/w9938.pdf?new_window=1

    Not sure how well he’s justified his argument, but it’s an interesting read! 

    Post # 31
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    Blushing bee

    @Jabberwocky:  My friend’s name is Chihiro and since a lot of people have difficulty pronouncing it (no idea why) she goes by Chi chi. I think cute nicknames can be taken out of names, especially Japanese ones, quite easily Smile

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