Post # 32
Well my Fiance is from Spain and I’m half Pakistani and we live in Holland, so we wanted to give our DD a name that would work well all over the world. We went with a name with special meaning in Pakistan, that could be pronounced well in Spain and is not to weird for Dutch standards. Leila it is! We did give het two other names that we really loved but have no special meaning. We really thought long about it, we also did’nt want to ruin her chances later in live.
Post # 33
My name is Petra and I love it. People usually tell me how much they love my name. My daughter’s name is Anastazie and people love it too. I was born in europe but have been living in the states since I was 19 – almost 11 years now and I haven’t experienced anything negative about having this name. The worst that eve happens is people not pronouncing it right which doesnt bother me at all.
Post # 34
@monkeyinasuit: “If someone made a comment about my ethnic name I’d tell them to GTFO of my corner office. “
…and there you have it.
Because we’re an international couple, we’ve both discussed that any child we have would need a name that can be pronounced in various languages without too much trouble (i.e. not too many vowels, no double consonants, no silent H’s, etc.) Because of our professional success and worldview, we believe that our children will not be raised in an environment where their life outcomes will be based (even in part) on peoples’ perceptions of their names.
This issue is discussed amongst my friends within a framework of “omg, I don’t want my kids’ resume to get thrown out if the HR people can tell we’re Black/Hispanic/Jewish/Foreign by seeing their names.” First of all, that’s hogwash. Even if they can’t tell your ethnicity by your name, they can tell that when they SEE your Black/Hispanic/Jewish/Foreign ass show up for the interview. And if they’re a racist or xenophobic company, they’ll just decline to hire you anyway. You don’t have to play tricks on people to get your proverbial foot in the door.
Post # 35
I voted other. I think it is nice to recognise both cultures, whatever way round that is.
Post # 36
My name is Ainsley and it was considered a unique when I was growing up. It’s alot more common now, but I went through a phase where I hated it, and a phase where I loved it. For the most part though I’ve really liked it. It’s apparently an English name, but i’ve spent extended periods of time in England and still get the same reaction to it that I do in canada… so I don’t know how “english” it is.
The only thing I feel I missed out on in my childhood was being able to go to the dollar store and get a pen, or a waterbottle, or a sticker etc. with my name on it. I always looked on those stupid turny displays for my name, and it was never there. 🙁
I’d love to name my child a gaelic name (I’m obsessed with Saoirse and Aoife right now) but Fiance is convinced the children will be named after him. no compromise. so it will be Jesse Jr. and Jessica. lol he may just not be allowed in the delivery room when the baby is born and official name given 😉
Post # 37
@dv3849: I love the name Ainsley! One of my friends’ daughters is called Ainsley.
One of my best friends is called Siobhan (Sha-von), and no one can ever pronounce it. Or spell it.
I like ethnic names, as they mean things. Made up names like Nevaeh and Dax and Jayden and names with “unique” spellings? Not so much.
Post # 38
@MrsFairyBee: No I haven’t seen it, I’ll have to look it up!
Post # 39
We’ll be using ethnic names. The majority of the country is set to be taken over by Latinos in the next 20 years anyway!!
Post # 40
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
@worldtraveler: We’re giving our kids unusual middles, which they’ll go by, and common firsts that they can choose to use for jobs if they wish. I voted for 1 common and 1 unusual :).
Post # 41
@worldtraveler: I love unique names that are not completely over the top. Neveah and similar names are just way too much for me.
I also love cultural names. Sure, some people may have difficulty spelling or pronouncing the name (which can be annoying), but if I had strong cultural ties I’d definitely want to incorporate that into my future child’s name.
One of my ex-boyfriends had an Albanian name (his father immigrated to the U.S. with his family at 13), as did all of his siblings. I always thought that was cool. A lot of people had difficulty pronouncing his name, but it never bothered him. I also wouldn’t worry about their professional future … His older brother was VP of a very successful company when we were together, so his name obviously didn’t hinder him in any way.
Post # 42
My husband’s first language is French so our preference is for names that are names both in French and in English, so that both sides of our family can pronounce the name in their preferred way. We will likely use the French spelling/pronunciation on the birth certificate, which might be slightly problematic depending on the name, as we live in the US and find most people aren’t able to pronounce the French names properly (they totally butcher my husband’s first name and both his last names… Which really aren’t complicated or very ‘foreign’).
I think names that reflect a child’s cultural background are perfectly fine, but they can cause some difficulties in spelling/pronunciation. I think it’s fine to use only cultural names and not a more common, Americanized name as well, but I think it can be useful to have two names to choose from. In my opinion, cultural names are totally different than ridiculous ‘unique’ names.
Post # 43
I can’t wait to name our kids “cultural” names. DH is French Canadian and his family line has been in Canada since the mid 1600’s, so we’re going to be naming our first son after his first relative that landed in Canada. It’s not going to be a hard name to pronounce, but we have chosen names that can be anglicized and francicized. Our other children will also have French/English names.
I’m a West Coast hippy with a very “hippy” name, so our kids are going to have wonderful middle names like being named after inanimate objects in nature. I would like to have a tree theme like Cedar, Sitka, Spruce etc. It’s going to be great. I grew up with such a hippy name, and that has never ever stopped me from obtaining employment or getting into schools.
Post # 44
Well, the consensus seems to be to give the kids the names.
I should mention that the names we would name them come from a culture not many Westerners know much about. They are something that would scream black/Hispanic/Middle Eastern/etc. The downside is that people might think they are completely made up names but we would probably get judged more than the kids.
It is interesting to hear the different perspectives. Little could change our minds since it is very important to us for a host of reasons having to do with a history of oppression, marginalization and the struggle to retain a culture amidst lots of bullshit laws that prevented my S/O and his siblings from getting these names. This is a second chance of sorts. But I wanted to hear about how such names were received.
My main concern is job discrimination and that doesn’t sound like an issue. It being a hassle to have an unusual name isn’t really a great argument to me because it’s a hassle having a common name too (believe me, I know!)
Anyway, thanks for all the thoughts.
Post # 45
Oh for goodness sake just call your children whatever you like. If people have a problem with it that’s their tough luck. And what’s a ‘cultural’ name? All names come from somewhere, even if u make it up yourself you have been inspired by your own culture (ethnicity/ interests/ religion/ celebrity culture/ whatever) so even common names are only common for the particular geographical location you live in. Personally I’d rather my children have more unusual names than sit in a classroom with six other little girls/ boys with the same one. (IMO) 😉 xxx
Post # 46
@MrsBot: I have the exact same feeling about mine. First name is Persian, middle is American. I hated it growing up. But now that I’m older, I love that it represents my hertiage. My family always addressed me by my middle name from the beginning. But I wouldn’t change it for anything!